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Separation when one doesnt want to ....

  • 10-12-2018 11:25PM
    #1
    forgodssake
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 790 ✭✭✭


    Hi all
    Feeling so low tonight . My long term partner left me 5 weeks ago and I'm not coping at all . We have 4 kids and a mortgage . He comes back to the house to look after the kids when I'm working and sleeps in the spare room on those nights . I didn't want this at all. Even though if I'm being honest the time apart has made me realize I haven't felt loved or wanted for a very long time . I'm just lost as to how to move on because I feel he has already . We don't speak at all only about the kids it's like we hate each other and I cannot stand the atmosphere when he is here . Has anyone been in this situation and could you offer me some advice please .


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  • #2
    SoapMcTavish
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 528 ✭✭✭SoapMcTavish


    forgodssake wrote: »
    Hi all
    Feeling so low tonight . My long term partner left me 5 weeks ago and I'm not coping at all . We have 4 kids and a mortgage . He comes back to the house to look after the kids when I'm working and sleeps in the spare room on those nights . I didn't want this at all. Even though if I'm being honest the time apart has made me realize I haven't felt loved or wanted for a very long time . I'm just lost as to how to move on because I feel he has already . We don't speak at all only about the kids it's like we hate each other and I cannot stand the atmosphere when he is here . Has anyone been in this situation and could you offer me some advice please .

    Hi,
    It's difficult to accept the fact that there is no answer for you. Some here will suggest counselling - but that only really works if there is something to salvage and you both want to save the relationship. Time helps - but I'm a year down the road and it still hurts. I found some relief in my friends and family. They helped me go forward each day.
    Mind your children, put them first, don't overreact - and maybe try to talk honestly and openly with your partner.
    I wish you all the best ....


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