'Are you upset about it?'

UCD GroupThink

I hate this one. I think by answering 'yes', it takes away your independence somewhat. I mightn't want to have to be the guy "who's upset". And if you say 'no', you just look like you're trying to act tough. It's also annoying because it's most likely obvious that one would be disappointed.

I remember I answered 'no' about the outcome of an interview a long time ago. The response I got was "oh well maybe you don't care enough about the interview in the first place"

Kevin Finnerty

What business is it of yours?

Encouraged

I remember once someone had a seizure and I was the first person to arrive to the person's attention.

Later on that day female colleague of mine asked me if I got a fright. I said yes. She then asked me if I was upset. I responded with "kind of a stupid question don't you think".

I was not implying that the answer was obvious... I might or might not have been upset from her point of view. But still my answer shut down the question.

Flyingsnowball

Fail to set up prepare to be upset.

Dr Strange

Encouraged wrote: »

Later on that day female colleague of mine asked me if I got a fright. I said yes. She then asked me if I was upset. I responded with "kind of a stupid question don't you think".

You lost out there. She’d probably wanted to cheer you up and look after you if you’d said yes. You’d been well in there.

Foweva Awone

There, there. Everything happens for a reason. When a door closes, a window opens.

Encouraged

Encouraged wrote: »

I remember once someone had a seizure and I was the first person to arrive to the person's attention.

Later on that day female colleague of mine asked me if I got a fright. I said yes. She then asked me if I was upset. I responded with "kind of a stupid question don't you think".

I was not implying that the answer was obvious... I might or might not have been upset from her point of view. But still my answer shut down the question.

How did it make you feel?

Franz Von Peppercorn

Foweva Awone wrote: »

There, there. Everything happens for a reason. When a door closes, a window opens.

Never seen that. You should check the window locks.

_Whimsical_

UCD GroupThink wrote: »

I hate this one. I think by answering 'yes', it takes away your independence somewhat. I mightn't want to have to be the guy "who's upset". And if you say 'no', you just look like you're trying to act tough. It's also annoying because it's most likely obvious that one would be disappointed.

I remember I answered 'no' about the outcome of an interview a long time ago. The response I got was "oh well maybe you don't care enough about the interview in the first place"

You can either respond honestly and hope for an honest response back from who you're speaking to, like we've all been there, we all know how you feel, or you can throw out of one of those standard catchalls like "lookit,what can ya do" , it could mean you're upset but philosophical, it could mean you're fine with it.
If someone asks if you're upset they're just acknowledging your humanity,that something crappy has happened to you, it doesn't happen much that people bother. They're probably someone who'd be nice back and make you feel better if you said yes.

Encouraged

Dr Strange wrote: »

You lost out there. She’d probably wanted to cheer you up and look after you if you’d said yes. You’d been well in there.

She was fat.

And I couldn't picture James Bonds saying yes

Encouraged

Deleted User wrote: »

How did it make you feel?

I suppose I was a bit of upset.

Plastic Age

Kevin Finnerty wrote: »

What business is it of yours?

Sounds a bit defensive though.

orourkeda1977

Upset about what?

jimgoose

Foweva Awone wrote: »

There, there. Everything happens for a reason. When a door closes, a window opens.

Textbook "Celtic Tiger" apartment you've got there, Chief.

jimgoose

And no, I'm not upset about it - I don't give a lantherin', scuttery fuck.

Feisar

Encouraged wrote: »

I remember once someone had a seizure and I was the first person to arrive to the person's attention.

Later on that day female colleague of mine asked me if I got a fright. I said yes. She then asked me if I was upset. I responded with "kind of a stupid question don't you think".

I was not implying that the answer was obvious... I might or might not have been upset from her point of view. But still my answer shut down the question.

Ya should have hit her with, "not all hero's wear capes" and then looked into the distance.

Plastic Age

"I don't wish to dwell upon it" is a good line to shut down the question.