Dating App

LeeLisa

got my answer! Thanks everyone

Mr. Incognito

Hes not interested. If he was hed be all over you texting.

Id cut my losses and move on. If you liked him send him one straight forward text to ask if he wants to meet up again.

No cryptic messages. Just a straight forward text.

TheChizler

Text him and find out? Maybe he's waiting for you.

ginandtonicsky

IME if a man is into you he’ll be in touch enough for you to know. And you can’t go wrong with contacting him first because he’ll be thrilled and will be responsive.

That said, it’s been a day?! Give the guy a chance. Some guys just aren’t as into texting as women, one of my exes would text about three days later after every date in the early days, he just wasn’t a texter at all.

Wait a few days and if you don’t hear anything, send a friendly text and see what happens.

LeeLisa

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

IME if a man is into you he’ll be in touch enough for you to know. And you can’t go wrong with contacting him first because he’ll be thrilled and will be responsive.

That said, it’s been a day?! Give the guy a chance. Some guys just aren’t as into texting as women, one of my exes would text about three days later after every date in the early days, he just wasn’t a texter at all.

Wait a few days and if you don’t hear anything, send a friendly text and see what happens.

No it’s actually been 4 days which probably says it all....

LeeLisa

TheChizler wrote: »

Text him and find out? Maybe he's waiting for you.

Does that actually happen?

ginandtonicsky

Ah ok. Did you have any chat on the date about meeting up again? “Next time we should...” etc

Four days means probably not interested but who knows, he could’ve landed into a tsunami of work etc. If it were me I’d send a straight forward text and be done with it. His response / lack of will give you your answer.

LeeLisa

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Ah ok. Did you have any chat on the date about meeting up again? “Next time we should...” etc

Four days means probably not interested but who knows, he could’ve landed into a tsunami of work etc. If it were me I’d send a straight forward text and be done with it. His response / lack of will give you your answer.

No there was no mention of a second date made by either of us in fairness.
That night when we were messaging to say we were home etc, there was a bit of small talk again, it wasn’t just one text, so I was thinking ‘well he’s still chatting so maybe he is interested’, but then again maybe he was just being polite. Yes I probably will text as you say, just to be done with it. I suppose I just wasn’t sure if etiquette was different as I assume people on apps are talking to many different people etc.

LegacyUser

He's not pushed, maybe he wasn't bowled over on the first date and isn't that into it..doesn't mean he won't feel differently on the second or third tho.....There's so much fatigue that comes with dating, and so many let downs, I think most ppl take the first date as just a casual say hi and don't get their hopes up. If it were me, I'd send a text to meet again, direct and that's it, knowing he probably isn't as into it as me, but if you feel a spark it's worth another date. And if he's lukewarm after the second or doesn't text, then I'd cut loose

never_mind

You’ve two options-

A) take it that he’s not interested and move on
see if he’s interested by asking him directly

I’d go with B because then it would prove A either way.

Big Bag of Chips

Yeah, there's not exactly a rule book that people follow. The idea that if a man is interested he'll be texting loads and arranging to meet up is countered by the idea that if someone seems overly keen they're probably going to disappear fairly quick. Then you have the idea that a man lack of texting means he's not interested.. But you haven't actually texted him either, yet you definitely are interested.

He's just a man. A human being same as you. He could be sitting at home with the exact same thoughts as you.

The only way you'll know is to ask. That way you'll get an answer.

leggo

I mean, in situations like this I’d still ask because what have you got to lose? I’ve met so many couples over the years were at first one was more into the other and so on, maybe he’s half-hearted about it and on the fence and might need a nudge then on the second date things click. Worst case scenario you know for sure and can just get back to swiping for the next one.

vargoo

Will you just flipping ask and stop making something so easy so complicated.

Women on them dating apps, my god, the sites need to make instructions for you or send you on a course or something before you are let on....this is coming across as angry but the time you waste with your bull, now you're on here wasting more peoples time.

If you've something to say then say it, it'd be great to be able to read peoples minds but unfortunately we can't. You have a mouth, 2 thumbs and 2 legs, use them.

TheChizler

LeeLisa wrote: »

Does that actually happen?

Absolutely. You're doing it right now! No reason why he wouldn't.