he said she said....

LegacyUser

i dont know what i hope to achieve by posting here but i have a problem at work which is absolutely wrecking my head and i would appreciate other peoples advice or opinion. i work in an office environment and have one office and i am after taking over another office. as part of the process a manager (person A) from my office was going to work in the other office with the manager (person there. i have called both managers A & B to try and make it easier to understand. i have known both managers for quite some time and i would trust Manager A completely while manager B is a compulsive liar. part of the takeover will include manager B leaving after Christmas so no issue there. They were not getting along with each other and manager A told me that manager B said a lot of personal things about me and my wife in front of other staff. i have no reason to doubt that manager A would make this up. Today i asked manager b about it but because i had no proof that she said it i could not accuse her directly. I said that it was reported to me that people were saying things about me and my wife and that i wasnt happy. She asked me who said what and i wouldn't say who as i knew that she would flat out deny it. She asked me was she present when they said it and i said yes. she is denying all knowledge of it and is now texting me constantly wanting to know who said what. i haven't told her directly that it was her and maybe i should man and up and tell her but what i am really trying hard to understand is can some one be that delusional that they forget what they said or what the hell can be going on in that persons head.

Big Bag of Chips

She's covering her back and trying to find out exactly how much you know. I'm not sure what the purpose of saying it to her was if you weren't going to confront her directly or ask her about it.

miamee

This is very difficult to follow. You work with two managers who don't get along and one told you that the other one was talking about you and your wife. Is that right? Are you their boss or another manager or something else?

cannotlogin

So Manager B who you have an issue with is leaving in 6 weeks?

Personally, I would have said nothing knowing all problems or issues will be gone shortly.

vectorvictor

Report to HR if you feel that strongly but you need to work on how you present an issue as your post reads live drivel

or...

go to work , go home, collect your money and let the **** that happens in the middle be as irrelevant as it really is

Ghekko

Can you verify what was said from any of the other members of staff who were present at the time that B was talking about you and your family?