Lent a TV, rude to ask for it back?

LegacyUser

This is quite a trivial matter but I just wanted to hear people's thoughts because I'm not sure on the matter myself.

I moved away for a year and told my brother he could have my TV.

Now I'm home, and I'd actually like my TV back, but I can't tell if that's rude seeing as I gave it to him in the first place?

I never stated I would be asking for it back, but I was leaving the country on an open ended basis so I wasn't sure where I stood. I know he would have no problem giving it back, but I can't tell if that would be incredibly rude of me? It's quite a nice one and would be expensive to replace.

SusieBlue

Sorry OP, you gave it away. I think it would be poor form to ask for it back.

skallywag

It would be poor form to be fair to ask for it back.

BrokenArrows

Sounds to me like you gave him the tv, you didnt loan him the tv.

If he is under the impression that he now owns the tv then yes it would be rude of you.

However if he knows you would eventually want it back then it would be fine.

Twenty Grand

You can always ask, but if he says no then just buy a new one. Sure they're cheap anyways.

rondog

YOu say 'Lent'. well then a loan is repayable.

Tell him you want the TV back.

SusieBlue

rondog wrote: »

YOu say 'Lent'. well then a loan is repayable.

Tell him you want the TV back.

He never told his brother it was a loan, in fact:

I never stated I would be asking for it back,

He basically gifted it to him. Asking for it back now would be the height of meanness.

nim1bdeh38l2cw

SusieBlue wrote: »

He never told his brother it was a loan, in fact:

You were there, yeah?

SusieBlue

Benson Salty Shuffleboard wrote: »

You were there, yeah?

I quoted that from the OP, if you had bothered to read it properly :rolleyes:

paw patrol

If you lent it then yeah ask for it back
If you gave it, then it's his - he may still give it back but it is his tv now.

Rubberchikken

its not rude and he's your brother so ask.

rainbowtrout

If you said 'you can use my tv while I'm out of the country' it implies you want it back on your return and then it would be ok to ask for it back.

If you said 'Seeing as I'm off to Australia, you can have my tv' it implies it was a gift and you wouldn't be looking for it back, so don't ask for it.

From your OP, it sounds more like the second one.

BettePorter

I'd say it also depends on where you're asking it back from ?

I mean is it moving across the hall landing from his room to yours ?
Or
Is it pulling up outside his house, knocking on his door and taking it off the wall whilst his kids are watching peppa pig ?
Different situations warrant different rights to say 'gimme back my telly'.

TheChizler

Ask him innocently if he's using it and he might offer it back?

Foweva Awone

I was in a similar situation, gave my brother a very good TV on a long term loan as I knew I wouldn't need it for a couple of years. I moved into a new place recently so asked if he was using it - he is - so I told him not to worry about it and to hold on to it. I'd only have taken it back if it was just gathering dust.

I asked around and a friend had a TV in long term storage that he was happy to give me - maybe if you ask around, you'll find someone with a spare one?

This would be an akward situation if it was a friend you lent it to but it’s your brother, I wouldn’t hesitate in asking when it’s a sibling.

LegacyUser

It's your property, go get it back. Be a man.

antix80

Look up the TV online. You'll probably find it's on sale new for €400, and now it's second hand.. so don't be stingy!

Also, it sounds like you didn't lend it, you gifted it.

On the other hand, it costs nothing to bring it up.. "Do you still use that tv. I need a tv for the living room so I'd like it back. But don't worry about it if it's not convenient."