Controlling Stress?

theglobe

If anything goes wrong for me at work or personal life, I let it control my whole day. Often I won't even be able to speak to other people and will cancel plans if I have them. The only thing I'm able to do is stare into space and become transfixed about the issue

Has anyone become good at compartmentalizing stress?

nullzero

theglobe wrote: »

If anything goes wrong for me at work or personal life, I let it control my whole day. Often I won't even be able to speak to other people and will cancel plans if I have them. The only thing I'm able to do is stare into space and become transfixed about the issue

Has anyone become good at compartmentalizing stress?

Start with some breathing exercises.
Then consider doing some real exercise, like running perhaps, does wonders.
Although you should probably talk to somebody of it's as severe as you describe. You don't want to end up suffering from hypertension as a result of your stress.
Oh and don't expect a huge amount of non "funny" responses in AH.

MonkieSocks

Have yerself a good old fashioned, never fails to get a load off

wakka12

I started going to mindfulness classes and exercising more and Ill try yoga. Doctor said my chronic anxiety condition is spiking my blood pressure dangerously high..Im only 22 Another thing to worry about

TheValeyard

If ive had a bad day, I play a videogame, chill out on it for an hour. Sorts me right out. Everyone is different. Some meditate, take up a sport, go for a run, box it off in your mind until the next day, loads of different ways OP, just try find the right one for you

theglobe

theglobe wrote: »

If anything goes wrong for me at work or personal life, I let it control my whole day. Often I won't even be able to speak to other people and will cancel plans if I have them. The only thing I'm able to do is stare into space and become transfixed about the issue

This is almost exactly what "Mindfullness meditation" is tailor made to combat. Often when people introduce the concept of MM this is exactly the kind of state of being they sell it as being a treatment for.

Coincidently enough only a couple of days ago there was a "workshop" released on you tube that discusses this very thing. So perhaps it will prove useful to you. He speaks exactly of your experience - of having an upsetting or disturbing thought return to dominate and ruin your entire day.

Wildly Boaring

Berties_Horse wrote: »

Don't allow it to control you, regulate your stress by adopting deep breathing exercises at intervals. Getting some fresh air does wonders.

Exercise is my one.
Or good old fashioned manual labour.

Also if things running through head I write down. Especially if I'm trying to sleep and keeping thinking of work stress.
I keep a dictaphone in car for same.

turbot

You are probably going into fight or flight in response. 
So you need to reset your nervous system and it sounds like you need to develop better skills in doing so. 
Try HEARTMATH  (buy a sensor, train your breathing) and that will help you reset. 
Might also be a good idea to get havening technique for any traumas you've built up in background.
Then keep it in check more by doing more exercise, stretching and meditation.  Also, good nutrition goes a long way, so do sauans for detox. 
This stuff will transform your whole life.

turbot

You are probably going into fight or flight in response. 
So you need to reset your nervous system and it sounds like you need to develop better skills in doing so. 
Try HEARTMATH  (buy a sensor, train your breathing) and that will help you reset. 
Might also be a good idea to get havening technique for any traumas you've built up in background.
Then keep it in check more by doing more exercise, stretching and meditation.  Also, good nutrition goes a long way, so do sauans for detox. 
This stuff will transform your whole life.

Berserker

I've come across some interesting mechanisms in my time. Personally, I keep tropical fish, so I redecorate an aquarium or two when I need to wind down. My wife, who didn't drink or smoke as a teen and still doesn't really, goes for a sneaky cigarette. Another close friend of mine, best mate growing up, cross dresses. Another girl I used to work with, who had massive problems with stress plays the bass guitar. She tried countless things to cope with stress.

ollkiller

Easier said than done but you need to find a way to de-stress or make yourself better.

Mindfullness helps a lot of people and is a good place to start. One tenet is to live in the present. Thinking too much about the past or future just leads to unnecessary stress. Mediatation is really good for stress levels too.
Nutrition and diet help. Just a balanced diet without too much alcohol.
Exercise. Running in particular but anything really. Great for good mental health.
As for work when you are outside work you are not getting paid for it so stop worrying about it

Two things that led me to a less stressful life. First i got very sick 10 years ago but recovered after 3 years. The little things just didn't seem to matter anymore. Second and this may seem far out. We live in a infinitely vast universe where everything we do in the end truly has no meaning. That can be daunting for some people but when you realise nothing really matters you can focus on the things that matter to yourself.

Some of that may help you and maybe none of it helps you. Each of us have to find a way to be happy and it's easier said than done. If you know your essentially a good person than don't fret about what other people think. We only live a finite amount of time and can't please everyone.

pekitivey

theglobe wrote: »

If anything goes wrong for me at work or personal life, I let it control my whole day. Often I won't even be able to speak to other people and will cancel plans if I have them. The only thing I'm able to do is stare into space and become transfixed about the issue

Has anyone become good at compartmentalizing stress?

Check out this website
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/
Its got loads of awsome modules for free to help anyone with stress or other mental health related problems.

professore

I practice the ancient art of not giving a ****. I do my best and if something is beyond my abilities and/or control, **** it. No matter how bad things seem now, no one will care in 5 years. Has served me well for many years. Also things are almost never as important as you think they are, and worrying about that one thing going wrong prevents you from seeing an alternative solution.

One thing I would say is to stay out of debt and bad relationships as much as possible. Both those things will screw you up big time.

Get outdoors and run or walk, first and foremost. Not in a gym, but outside in any weather.

Go to an introductory course and learn some meditation techniques, meditation will give you a space where you can have a holiday from your thoughts so to speak. Force yourself to be in the present, you can't change the past nor predict the future so focusing on apparently looming catastrophes is a waste of mental and emotional energy.

If anxiety is taking over your life, start with your GP. You don't have to live like that and there are technques that can help you to change how you think, so that intrusive thoughts don't dominate your life.

orourkeda1977

My new stress song

JeffKenna

Cigarettes work for me!

sbsquarepants

professore wrote: »

I practice the ancient art of not giving a shít. .

I'm quite the accomplished practitioner myself:D

There are very few things in life worth worrying about, I'm 44 and I haven't stumbled across one of them yet.

All the shít that people worry themselves sick over is just crazy.

Stop and ask yourself, will this matter in 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years, 2 decades - if it stops being important at one of those stages, it's not actually important at any of those stages - so just say fúck it and bounce on!

Berserker

professore wrote: »

I practice the ancient art of not giving a ****. I do my best and if something is beyond my abilities and/or control, **** it.

I joined that club a while back when I left the upper echelons of software development. I'm just a humble regular dev these days and other devs code which would have made my head explode a few years back gets a simple 'huh' now. My code makes life easy for others, according to one of my piers. That's my aim now. Gone are they days when I spend all night re-writing someone else's madness.

Wish I knew how. Time used to it is mostly the healer but I can still work myself into a fit if the mind wanders too far.

It's sprang up again recently and I've been basically drinking my way through it so I can actually sleep. I was on medication before and it was way worse for me with side effects than a few beers.


I've also found Dan Carlin's Hardcore History to be a great mental escape.

incentsitive

I either go to the pub and drink half a dozen pints, 2-3 whiskeys, start a fight, get it off my chest, bag of chips, go home....."sure I was drunk....perfect excuse".

Or else, get out on a GAA pitch, you can do what you want out there and there are absolutely NO ramifications....in fact, your club and supporters will back you to the hilt no matter what you do.

fryup

MonkieSocks wrote: »

Have yerself a good old fashioned, never fails to get a load off

old fashioned ..............what ?

seenitall

Stressed and anxious peeps, have a little Google of the benefits of Niacin (vitamin B3) and Magnesium supplements to the nervous system.

I am a (slightly) different person since I've started taking them - in all the best ways!