Ex girfriend

Mondo from Dublin

I dated a very special girl recently, we hit it off for very dark reasons, we had stuff in common like we both attempted suicide when we were teenagers. We had wonder walks and days out together, then on September 15 she told me that she doesn't want to see me/talk to me " for now" because her mental health won't allow it and she then all of a sudden blocks me on whatsapp. Today I see her on a website looking for no strings sex:(:(.:(

pleas advice

did you swipe right?

KevinCavan

She sounds great, pity it didn’t work out.

Dtp1979

You must’ve been on the site yourself if you saw her so you’re just as bad

Day Lewin

Well, she wasn't into you.
And sounds like she may not want anyone to get too serious.
I suspect it won't all go well for the young lady, but you sound quite sensible.
Just move on, I'm afraid - there's not much more you can do with this situation. Let it go!

Samuel T. Cogley

No strings would suggest she's not looking for a relationship.

Agent Smith

Samuel T. Cogley wrote: »

No strings would suggest she's not looking for a relationship.

Or a bad guitar....

Gonad

Can you send me a link so I can check this for you ?

Iseedeadpixels

Link?

Gravelly

Send on her phone number there and I’ll ask her for you.

the_syco

Mondo from Dublin wrote: »

We had wonder walks and days out together, then on September 15 she told me that she doesn't want to see me/talk to me " for now" because her mental health won't allow it and she then all of a sudden blocks me on whatsapp. Today I see her on a website looking for no strings sex:(.:(

So, she tried the relationship thing, found out that it didn't end with sex, so now has decided to get to the point to get someones point rammed into her?

Mrs OBumble

Ahh, so what. You came with strings, she didn't want any. So she broke up with you and is looking for a no-strings version, which she's perfectly entitled to do.


Now whether no-strings sex is really good for anyone's mental health, vs it being the cause of lot of problems is a whole different discussion.

Samuel T. Cogley

Agent Smith wrote: »

Or a bad guitar....

LOL read your username as Aerosmith just then.

TheValeyard

Ah well

paw patrol

sounds like a head melter.
ignore her, focus on yourself instead.

there are nice ladies out there without the drama of stupid games.

meeeeh

Most likely she just didn't want to date you and gave you the most pathetic excuse. Classic "it's me not you" excuse.

buried

The universe just did you a solid, don't banjax it, keep moving

lawred2

What's a wonder walk?

Maybe the whole 'we both tried to kill ourselves thing' was too much for her. You would be a constant reminder of it every time you meet.

I'd say the common ground got you talking but as every day background mood music

Fu(k that

Gravelly

lawred2 wrote: »

What's a wonder walk?

It’s a walk where she’s wondering if you’ll ever get around to all that no strings sex she was expecting.

Vincent Vega

May not be the case, but if you feel things really seemed to all be going well, it's always probable she simply didn't like how deep things had gotten.

And rather than run the risk of being attached and end up getting hurt decided it best to make the first move.

I'd say it's common enough.

In any case, I'd say you're best to leave things be.

puppieperson1

Hi sorry you are hurt but sometimes having a lot of dark reasons in common is not a good match . dark people dont reaally need other dark people. you need a simple happy person and so does she in the meantime she just wants sex and not discussions its actually normal for these type of folk. move on for your own good and find a simple girl .... best of luck

colm_mcm

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Now whether no-strings sex is really good for anyone's mental health, vs it being the cause of lot of problems is a whole different discussion.

Nothing a good ride wouldn’t cure.

Daisybelly

I have never been for a wonder walk

SEPT 23 1989

Let me whisper my last goodbyes

It's serious

evolving tipperary

Mondo from Dublin wrote: »

I dated a very special girl recently, we hit it off for very dark reasons, we had stuff in common like we both attempted suicide when we were teenagers. We had wonder walks and days out together, then on September 15 she told me that she doesn't want to see me/talk to me " for now" because her mental health won't allow it and she then all of a sudden blocks me on whatsapp. Today I see her on a website looking for no strings sex:(:(.:(

Link?

evolving tipperary

Stan. wrote: »

Maybe it’s some one famous from Fair City

Probably Bella

HandsomeBob

Read your own post OP and you'll realise you weren't a match. Mental health V mental health is not destined to last.

frag420

Hardly an ex when seeing each other for a month...

By the way she is a great shag... blowjobs are a bit **** though!

Next!!

mvl

Mondo from Dublin wrote: »

girl ... dark reasons ... attempted suicide when teenagers... she doesn't want to see me/talk to me " for now" because her mental health won't allow it and she then all of a sudden blocks me on whatsapp. Today ... looking for no strings sex:(:(.:(

borderline much ?

orourkeda1977

Mondo from Dublin wrote: »

I dated a very special girl recently, we hit it off for very dark reasons, we had stuff in common like we both attempted suicide when we were teenagers. We had wonder walks and days out together, then on September 15 she told me that she doesn't want to see me/talk to me " for now" because her mental health won't allow it and she then all of a sudden blocks me on whatsapp. Today I see her on a website looking for no strings sex:(:(.:(

Thats what I call dodging a bullet.

bazza1

Ride her ma!

lawred2

Stan. wrote: »

Maybe it lesbian strap on dildo action she is looking for.

Maybe that's what a wonder walk is

Wibbs

Mondo from Dublin wrote: »

I dated a very special girl recently,

OK.

we hit it off for very dark reasons, we had stuff in common like we both attempted suicide when we were teenagers.

While an understandable point of commonality, I would say not a good start at all. The options in those kinda setup usually go down two roads: 1) you try to "cure" each other(or one does) and that never works out and even if it does nobody wants to be reminded of bad times, so a split is almost inevitable. 2) you bring each other down, or one down. Again not so good at all.

We had wonder walks and days out together, then on September 15 she told me that she doesn't want to see me/talk to me " for now" because her mental health won't allow it and she then all of a sudden blocks me on whatsapp. Today I see her on a website looking for no strings sex:(:(.:(

She sounds like she doesn't know what she wants M. Might still be struggling in her own headspace. Though I'd bet you want to "save her" and felt something new in your life for her, it would be a head wreck. For both, but more for you IMHO.

This stuff is hard on the heart, but you will be fine. Process it, don't try to contact her(important), if she tries to contact you, I'd be polite, but decline and most of all work on your own stuff, for you. That's the really important bit M.

PapaOscar

Chin up OP, you dont want some yoke thats advertising herself for the ride on a website.
You dodged a bullet.

madwidow

Shouldnt this be in Personal Issues section?

madwidow

Stan. wrote: »

You an apprentice?

No. Is there a joke coming?

KevinCavan

Wibbs wrote: »

OK. While an understandable point of commonality, I would say not a good start at all. The options in those kinda setup usually go down two roads: 1) you try to "cure" each other(or one does) and that never works out and even if it does nobody wants to be reminded of bad times, so a split is almost inevitable. 2) you bring each other down, or one down. Again not so good at all.

She sounds like she doesn't know what she wants M. Might still be struggling in her own headspace. Though I'd bet you want to "save her" and felt something new in your life for her, it would be a head wreck. For both, but more for you IMHO.

This stuff is hard on the heart, but you will be fine. Process it, don't try to contact her(important), if she tries to contact you, I'd be polite, but decline and most of all work on your own stuff, for you. That's the really important bit M.

There’s no woman worth emotional torture. Forget about the cnut.

nthclare

Sounds like she's burst your Banjo strings...

Run to hill's, better off with your flute intact than someone looking for a bad guitar....

Man I'm single and happy out, these dating sites are like a grave yard for rotten rope's...

I know a lot of people are taking the piss, I empathise with your situation.

But when you've been burnt as much as some of men and women here you'll eventually not give a ****...

Wishing you a nice weekend.... watch out for tripwires...

And be grateful you're free....

Outlaw Pete

Amazed so many never heard of Wonderwalks.

The song Wonderwall was actually originally called Wonderwalk.

Was about some winding road which Noel loved which led to a beach and it had all these lights on it that were blinding.

Liam just read the last letter as a 'L' and Noel never bothered correcting him.

True story.

bassy

georgie burgess is probaly on her now,good girl go home now kerri ann