Child maintenance

topbhoy2014

Hi guys/gals

I’m concerned that the maintenance I am paying for my eldest son is not being spent on him. His mother is currently not living with him, he lives with his stepdad and two siblings from that marriage. His mother does not stay in the house and comes and goes as she pleases. She pays no money towards the mortgage, bills or food in the house.

Can anybody tell me is there any sort of law in Ireland or anything that states the maintenance must be spent on the child? I’m paying €300 a month for my son and the mother is spending it all on her social life!

Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer

Henry Ford III

How could you prove that though?

Nasty position.

wexie

Is there any way you could pay it directly to the stepdad? Or would that have you fall foul of the agreements?

topbhoy2014

wexie wrote: »

Is there any way you could pay it directly to the stepdad? Or would that have you fall foul of the agreements?

I was paying it straight to The stepdad, she took me to court and got a maintenance order, as she is the only guardian of the child she must be payed, it took 5 court sessions before they informed me of this!

topbhoy2014

Henry Ford III wrote: »

How could you prove that though?

Nasty position.

Myself and the stepdad are in regular contact, it’s us looking after the child! I take my son on wednesdays and on Friday overnight, he stays with my mam on a Saturday night, then stays with his stepdad the rest of the week, barely sees his mam

holepunch

Was the maintenance ordered by the courts? I think they would be interested to hear that she's not living with the son you are providing maintenace for

topbhoy2014

holepunch wrote: »

Was the maintenance ordered by the courts? I think they would be interested to hear that she's not living with the son you are providing maintenace for

Ye court ordered, I told them originally that she’s rarely around, but at this stage it’s practically never around! She has abandoned the kids and it’s showing in them. The 3 of them are in a bad place

Turnipman

topbhoy2014 wrote: »

Ye court ordered, I told them originally that she’s rarely around, but at this stage it’s practically never around! She has abandoned the kids and it’s showing in them. The 3 of them are in a bad place

Could you apply for guardianship on the basis that she has abandoned your child? Or maybe even make a joint application together with the other kids' father?

topbhoy2014

Turnipman wrote: »

Could you apply for guardianship on the basis that she has abandoned your child? Or maybe even make a joint application together with the other kids' father?

At the moment I can’t afford the fees. I’m waiting on the stepdad to put through his guardianship case he’s applying for along with an access order and separation agreement with the mother.

It’s both us fathers that are doing the parenting, she cares nothing and pays for nothing for any of the kids!

holepunch

topbhoy2014 wrote: »

Turnipman wrote: »

Could you apply for guardianship on the basis that she has abandoned your child?    Or maybe even make a joint application together with the other kids' father?

At the moment I can’t afford the fees. I’m waiting on the stepdad to put through his guardianship case he’s applying for along with an access order and separation agreement with the mother.

It’s both us fathers that are doing the parenting, she cares nothing and pays for nothing for any of the kids!

Go to citizena advice see if you can apply for legal aid?

Payton

Can you take full custody of your child?