Wedding Ideas

pmcgloin.82

Hi Guys (preferably women {men too please if you have done this or you know someone that did}),

I am looking for ideas here please.  Myself & my fiancee are looking at getting married in 2020, however, my fiancee wants an intimate wedding (doesn't like to be in the spotlight) so it will be just the two of us.  I want to surprise her with something special (next year) and organise a intimate wedding (just the two of us abroad as far as she is aware this will be a "holiday").

Any suggestions I could use, places to do it and where to look.  I would be really grateful for any ideas/ suggestions (as MANY as it is possible) and any links where to look & websites that I can book through.

Thanks in advance,

Paul

Faith

That sounds very romantic, but are you sure it’s the best idea? Just because she wants it to be small, doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to be involved in the planning. I feel like that’s a massive risk to take, personally. It could backfire horrendously but you know your fiancée better than we do.

love_love

Also, on a practical level, how would you do the legal side of it?

duffman13

Are you 100% intimate means just you two? Family can be very important especially immediate family. Your relatively snookered on the legal aspects of unless you go somewhere like Vegas and have a drive through wedding. Nice sentiment but a chat around what an intimate wedding looks like for her might be a good way of seeing if your thoughts align with hers

Toots

Just bear in mind if you are planning to get married in Ireland, you need to give 3 months notice for it to be legal and both parties need to present themselves to give notice.

pmcgloin.82

duffman13 wrote: »

Are you 100% intimate means just you two? Family can be very important especially immediate family. Your relatively snookered on the legal aspects of unless you go somewhere like Vegas and have a drive through wedding. Nice sentiment but a chat around what an intimate wedding looks like for her might be a good way of seeing if your thoughts align with hers

Yes, two of us - that what was agreed & throw a party for it after back home.  Well both of us have big families and the way it works, you invite one & you invite all.  We were thinking of having a holiday abroad and get married there - this was her idea, I'm just considering doing it as a surprise, just doing my due diligence before I do anything else, hence my post

pmcgloin.82

Toots wrote: »

Just bear in mind if you are planning to get married in Ireland, you need to give 3 months notice for it to be legal and both parties need to present themselves to give notice.

We were thinking of doing it somewhere outside Ireland

pmcgloin.82

love_love wrote: »

Also, on a practical level, how would you do the legal side of it?

I looked up info about getting a Freedom to Marry abroad cert from the Irish Embassy in the country we are getting married in (if we do it abroad)

Faith

Regardless, you can’t get a marriage license without both parties present, to the best of my knowledge. Otherwise it would massively increase the risk of coercion and forced marriages. Marriage licenses vary as to when you need to get them, but as said, in Ireland it’s a minimum of 3 months before the wedding. In Las Vegas, I think it’s 24 hours. I’m not sure if there’s anywhere without a brief wait period, but again, you’d both need to be present no matter what AFAIK. You couldn’t just surprise her with an aisle and a celebrant.

pmcgloin.82

pmcgloin.82 wrote: »

We were thinking of doing it somewhere outside Ireland

Most foreign weddings are for show only. The legal part has to be done in Ireland beforehand for most countries.

love_love

pmcgloin.82 wrote: »

I looked up info about getting a Freedom to Marry abroad cert from the Irish Embassy in the country we are getting married in (if we do it abroad)

As Faith has pointed out, you need to give notice of your intention to marry if you were doing it in Ireland, so would your plan be to research countries where you could have a very quick turn around for a marriage licence?

Sir_Name

If you both are absolutely certain then you have a few options. We looked into this as we are getting married in France and live abroad anyway and you need to be in France for a number of weeks before the wedding.

Anyway... from memory Cyprus, Gibraltar and Seychelles are all options to get married legally in (Vegas too obv) without having to be there for an extended period of time.

Good luck!

Addle

Scotland is lovely for a short notice wedding.
Less strict than England/Wales/NI.
You could go to Edinburgh for a few days.

pmcgloin.82

Faith wrote: »

Regardless, you can’t get a marriage license without both parties present, to the best of my knowledge. Otherwise it would massively increase the risk of coercion and forced marriages. Marriage licenses vary as to when you need to get them, but as said, in Ireland it’s a minimum of 3 months before the wedding. In Las Vegas, I think it’s 24 hours. I’m not sure if there’s anywhere without a brief wait period, but again, you’d both need to be present no matter what AFAIK. You couldn’t just surprise her with an aisle and a celebrant.

Didn't even click about that. Thank you all for your opinions.

closifer

We got married in las Vegas. Just the two of us. It was so easy. We didn't need to advise anyone in ireland. There were no legality issues and all above board when we came back.

We arrived on a Thursday night and got a limo from the airport to the clerks office to get a licence which took all of 10 minutes. We then got married at 2pm the next day!

When we returned we had a party for family and friends. No regrets at all about how we did it. It was 100% perfect for us

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closifer

That's strange. I got a new passport and bought a house with my husband since getting married and wasn't asked for this apostille on either occasion

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