Making friends in college

TheBiz

Hello,

I've just changed courses and colleges, so I'm in a whole new place with all new people..
I've also started in 2nd year so they have all formed their own groups.

I'm commuting in and out so I can't really join any clubs and societies, I don't have any housemates and I have no real way to go out for the night and meet people (beyond not being able to drink for 3 months).

I'm in small tutorials and practicals of >50, just people in the same specialty as myself and I'm in lectures of ~100 for various modules.

I've talked to only a handful of people and no ones really started any with me, bar a girl I who went to my school and I share one lecture with, but we only know each other by name.
People aren't too keen on chatting outside their own groups in lectures.

I know one of my good friends goes to the same college, he's the year above me in a different course, I also know some of his friends from nights out, but not very well.

I don't want to go through college silently like I have been.
I'm not the most out going person, but I've asked and answered questions here and there..

Any advice?

spockety

Clubs and Societies are the answer, absolutely.

You say you can't join any because you're commuting in and out. What does that mean? Clubs and socs were my main outlet when I started college and I lived 2 buses away.

the_syco

TheBiz wrote: »

I'm commuting in and out so I can't really join any clubs and societies

Not the late ones, no. But the ones straight after college, you can.

Also, join the gym. Go regularly on certain days, and you'll get talking to the other regulars.

Look at the ones related to your field of study, for two reasons;
good chance that some of its members will be in your class
when you're looking for a job, it's handy to know others in the field who may have gotten a job already, and know of a job available

Defunkd

There's no formula to be followed that will guarantee making new friends but work with what you already have: meet your friend in the year ahead a few times and maintain contact with the girl you know to see. As you keep up contact, friendships start to develop.
Do the buses or trains not run after college? Societies/clubs are better for maki g friends than lectures.

troyzer

I struggled with this as well. I was about two and a half hours on the bus everyday so just wasn't arsed doing the clubs and societies for the most part.

I'm lucky in that when I got to third year my class size shrunk to 15. You need to make an effort though. I regret not getting more involved in first year.

silverharp

find a club in the college that meet at the weekend, a hiking club for example will be a very good way of getting to know a group.

cruizer101

To be fair you must only be back a week or two at this stage so thats not very long.
It will be harder as cliques will have been formed but still plenty of time.
Clubs and socs really would be best bet, the sooner you get in the better as beginning of year is when they will have other new members.
Can you not get later bus/train?