Do you think this is ok for a Wedding Gift?

Spanish Eyes

We have been invited to a wedding but are unable to attend. They are friends, not relatives.

We are going mad trying to think what is an acceptable gift as non attenders.

OH has suggested €200 from both of us plus a bottle of champagne.

Would you think that's ok or should we give more? Wedding is in mid October.

I'm sure it is, but do not want to be a cheapskate either!

ec18

If you aren't going, then the bottle of champagne on it's own is more than enough. No one would expect a present from someone not attending

autumnbelle

Way too much as other poster said even the champagne would be a brilliant present in my opinion

theteal

That's probably £200 more than we'd be sending tbh

beertons

Just give them the bottle.

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Alkers

Depends on how good friends your are! Assuming you're good friends I'd send them a card and arrange a meal out for the four of you after the wedding to celebrate.
If they're acquaintances I'd just decline the invite with the bottle.

GingerLily

If you cancle late then you should give a gift as if you attended.

Otherwise a bottle of something is a very nice generous gift.

Another idea is offering to take them to lunch/dinner to celebrate because you can't make the day - this is more appropriate for a close friend!

BabysCoffee

Card and a small gift or a voucher for a meal (50/100) is plenty if you are not attending.

200 euro is mad money

wexfordhun

BabysCoffee wrote: »

Card and a small gift or a voucher for a meal (50/100) is plenty if you are not attending.

200 euro is mad money

Agreed, no one would expect any money from non attendees.

Spanish Eyes

Thanks for all your replies.

They are very good friends, live In France and are coming home for the wedding. So going out for a meal later is out of the question.

GingerLily

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies.

They are very good friends, live In France and are coming home for the wedding. So going out for a meal later is out of the question.

A nice bottle of Irish Whiskey could be good if their coming from France (Champagne is less of a novelty for them).

Spanish Eyes

GingerLily wrote: »

A nice bottle of Irish Whiskey could be good if their coming from France (Champagne is less of a novelty for them).

Good idea thanks! Was just thinking fizz and celebrations!

annoyedgal

If they were close friends i would give them the same present as if i was attending or a present of similar cash equivalent.
If not so close then a smaller gift to value of 50 or so.

1perriwinkle

What about looking up online to find a restaurant near where they live and buying a voucher? Then when they go home and the lost-wedding blues kick in, they can go out for dinner and reminisce.

jlm29

If they were my close friends, I would give the same gift, regardless of whether I was present or not. I would be giving a gift to wish them well, rather than paying for a ticket? I wouldn’t be too worried about whether it was expected or not, as I say, I’d want to wish my friends well.
If it was an acquaintance, or a work colleague or the like, who I wasn’t close too I might look at it a bit differently.

lazygal

jlm29 wrote: »

If they were my close friends, I would give the same gift, regardless of whether I was present or not. I would be giving a gift to wish them well, rather than paying for a ticket? I wouldn’t be too worried about whether it was expected or not, as I say, I’d want to wish my friends well.
If it was an acquaintance, or a work colleague or the like, who I wasn’t close too I might look at it a bit differently.

Same here. We haven't attended weddings of close friends/family and would still give the gift to celebrate their marriage regardless. Usually cash.

baby and crumble

Maybe be wary of buying them a gift to give them here, they'll only have to bring it home on transport with them, or organise for it to be sent to France. You could order a gift to be delivered directly to them say a month (or whatever) after the day. I can just imagine the pain of having to drag whiskey back over.

lazygal

I wouldn't bother with a voucher either. We got some as wedding presents and always had to add to the price to have a meal out as they were usually for fairly high end places, some of which we wouldn't choose to eat in. Cash is easy.

McTigs

Slightly off topic but what is normal to give as a wedding gift if you are only going to the afters?

woodchuck

McTigs wrote: »

Slightly off topic but what is normal to give as a wedding gift if you are only going to the afters?

I used to put 50euro in a card when going to an afters on my own or a present of roughly the equivalent value.

Addle

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies.

They are very good friends, live In France and are coming home for the wedding. So going out for a meal later is out of the question.

We give presents for the occasion, not attendance, so if they were my good friends, I'd give the same gift whether I was going to the party or not.