Wedding Guest

MiliMe

Odd question.

How would you feel if someone who is to be a guest at your wedding rejected/ignored a FB request??

Redser87

Wouldn't bother me, they may only use FB for family and very close friends.

splinter65

MiliMe wrote: »

Odd question.

How would you feel if someone who is to be a guest at your wedding rejected/ignored a FB request??

Wouldn't care. My brother has 8 Facebook friends because he doesn't want anyone else to see pics of his 2 little girls.

MiliMe

If you knew neither of the above to be true??

368100

How do you know them that theyve been invited?

MiliMe

368100 wrote: »

How do you know them that theyve been invited?

They are a friend of my OH who i have met numerous times.
I know sometimes I am a bit over sensitive about these kind of things and wish now that is never as the request but hey what can ya do.
Forget about it and move on.
Maybe get over myself!

aaakev

MiliMe wrote: »

Maybe get over myself!

I think that's the best advise.

I used to have loads of Facebook friends but now iv very few, i deleted heaps of them because most people are so fake and annoying as hell on social media and if this is ypur reaction to someone not accepting a friend request id take a guess you're one of them people too...

368100

MiliMe wrote: »

They are a friend of my OH who i have met numerous times.
I know sometimes I am a bit over sensitive about these kind of things and wish now that is never as the request but hey what can ya do.
Forget about it and move on.
Maybe get over myself!

Its a bit odd alright but i wouldnt let it annoy you. Cancel the request and forget about it.

ArthurG

MiliMe wrote: »

They are a friend of my OH who i have met numerous times......

Then why in the name of god are you getting worked up over them accepting a FB friend request? If you know them so well ask them.

368100

I think you're all being a bit hard on the OP....id be a bit put out by it too....maybe not to do with the facebook request but more so that Id rather only have people at my wedding that I got on with, and its a bit of an indication that they dont.

December2012

I think you may want to think about why you are taking this as a snub. They are a friend of your partner, and if you have met them in real life and got on well, and they are coming to your wedding, why do you need to have an online friendship too?

I don't accept every FB friend request I get.

aaakev

368100 wrote: »

I think you're all being a bit hard on the OP....id be a bit put out by it too....maybe not to do with the facebook request but more so that Id rather only have people at my wedding that I got on with, and its a bit of an indication that they dont.

People put way too much weight on social media these days. For the most part they are not real relationships, they are full of fake bull****.

My wifes cousin has been adding me in Facebook for about 6 years, i always delete the request because everyone else i know that is friends with her comments on how annoying she is on it always adding people to this group of that group and sharing bull****. She asked me one day why i wont accept her and i told her out straight shes annoying on Facebook, havent got a request since

dudara

There’s too much noise and spam on FB these days and it’s just not worth it anymore. The original benefits of being able to stay in touch have been lost. So people are using it less and less, or being very selective in how they use it.

If you get on well with this person in real life, then I’d be happy with that.

Faith

I don’t always see notifications about friend requests on FB. I got one once and found about 5 other historic requests that I had never known about.

But either way, as others have said, FB is meaningless. If you’re friends, you’ll be friends regardless of whether FB says you are or not.

Ghekko

It's a friend of your partner. The fact that you have met them numerous times may not mean that you are close friends with them too. I wouldn't consider sending a friend request to any of Dh's friends and would find it odd if his friends sent me a request. I'd forget about it and if it is possible, delete the request if he hasn't already clicked the ignore option.

splinter65

MiliMe wrote: »

If you knew neither of the above to be true??

I definitely wouldn't attach any importance whatsoever to anything that anyone does or doesn't do on Facebook.
In 5 years time we will all be wondering what the hell that was all about.
There could be 1000 reasons why your friend request has not been acknowledged.
One of those reasons might be that this person can't stand you. Equally it might be that they haven't checked friend requests all year. Either way it's just not important enough to waste any time thinking about it.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

aaakev wrote: »

I think that's the best advise.

I used to have loads of Facebook friends but now iv very few, i deleted heaps of them because most people are so fake and annoying as hell on social media and if this is ypur reaction to someone not accepting a friend request id take a guess you're one of them people too...

This is very harsh on the OP.

aaakev

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

This is very harsh on the OP.

Ok....

skallywag

I have no interest at all in being FB friends with a lot of my own friend's partners.

It's not meant as a slight on them at all, and I typically get on well with them when we meet. It's just that I would have no interest in seeing the class of posts/pics etc. which they typically make.

A friend of mine is more sensitive to what others may think about not accepting such a request, so just accepts, but then immediately changes the account settings so that they never see any posts from this new 'friend' in their feed, nor does the new 'friend' see anything that they post. I call it the 'coward's defriending' (-:

clint_silver

splinter65 wrote: »

Wouldn't care. My brother has 8 Facebook friends because he doesn't want anyone else to see pics of his 2 little girls.

Is that really the reason he only has 8 friends on facebook?

He could have 100 friends and only share pictures with 8. Facebooks privacy features have got quite good.