Anxiety over forgetting to inform work

LegacyUser

I recently had a baby , all going well and super busy with three children now!
I have anxiety which is manageable and it's nothing new, had it for years.. and years.

When I went on maternity leave everyone gave me warm wishes and asked me to let them know how everything goes.

I didn't get in touch. I was focused on things at home, nappies, sleepless nights, dinner, paying bills, school holidays, making sure the youngest adjusted to being middle child (I am a middle child and yes it's a syndrome)

My baby is now nearly two months old and I still haven't sent in a photo or got in touch.i feel so embarrassed and inconsiderate that I haven't yet got in touch with work to let them know I had the baby, I can imagine they think I don't care . The more I think the worse it gets and my anxiety about it spirals

Why couldn't I have just done it ages ago, I do not know.

Do I send in a few photos and welcome the baby , I haven't a clue what to write in the welcome note.
Please any creative replies are very welcome at this stage.

Thank you

Big Bag of Chips

Have you the phone number of anyone you work with? If so then a quick text, WhatsApp, Viber, whatever to say "can't believe I still didn't send you a picture. Mayhem with 3!!" And then attach a photo or two.

It really isn't that big a deal. People aren't REALLY all that interested in other people's children! It's just polite interest. Although if nobody in work has any contact with you on social media or elsewhere, then if they haven't heard from you, they might be afraid that something bad happened.

Send a quick text.

Then it's done.

shesty

Same situation here.Three kids is hectic.It speaks for itself.
I am overdue a meet up with a couple of people (16 weeks!!), it's not going to happen any time soon at this rate.
Send a quick text and some photos and leave it at that.

Redser87

BBOC is spot on. They will be glad to hear that all is well, send back a text saying how lovely the baby is, and that will be it, nothing more to worry about on this count.

bertsmom

To be honest OP if its just colleagues and not actual friends I wouldn't worry at all. When people leave work for maternity leave here we wish them well and then promptly forget about them until they come back. It sounds mean but it really isn't. We are just busy and time flies and before you know it they are back.
Friends would obviously be different as you would be in touch and have called with card and gift etc but colleagues I wouldn't give a thought to. Dont be worrying, enjoy your time away from work and leave even thinking about work or colleagues until you are paid to. This time is precious family time I hope it all goes well for you.

TheBoyConor

People really aren't interested in your home life or baby news. Whenever someone in my work leaves on maternity leave they never really enter into my thoughts again until they return afterwards. Unless they were a friend also but that's different I guess.

When people bring newborns into work I of course exchange pleasenatries with the mother and so on but really I just want them out of my face so I can get on with what i've to do.

You're over thinking it. Whether you send a picture or not, no-one really cares.

They are certainly not around the table discussing why you have not yet sent them a picture.

Johnnyhpipe

I doubt its even crossed their minds to be honest!

whiskeyman

If no one had your number and didn't bother checking in with you at any point, I don't think I'd bother!
I'm sure they wish you well, but you really don't need to worry!

Edgware

Keyboardmama wrote: »

I recently had a baby , all going well and super busy with three children now!
I have anxiety which is manageable and it's nothing new, had it for years.. and years.

When I went on maternity leave everyone gave me warm wishes and asked me to let them know how everything goes.

I didn't get in touch. I was focused on things at home, nappies, sleepless nights, dinner, paying bills, school holidays, making sure the youngest adjusted to being middle child (I am a middle child and yes it's a syndrome)

My baby is now nearly two months old and I still haven't sent in a photo or got in touch.i feel so embarrassed and inconsiderate that I haven't yet got in touch with work to let them know I had the baby, I can imagine they think I don't care . The more I think the worse it gets and my anxiety about it spirals

Why couldn't I have just done it ages ago, I do not know.

Do I send in a few photos and welcome the baby , I haven't a clue what to write in the welcome note.
Please any creative replies are very welcome at this stage.

Thank you

All it will take is one card and a photo of the cutie ( the baby not you!) and a few friendly lines to say something like " Sorry for not getting in touch but I have been up to my eyes. Thought I would have had the hang of this nappy trick by now. Hope all are well"

orthsquel

2 of my colleagues are on maternity leave, I know one had the baby and the news got around, mum and baby all happy; the other colleague I don't know if she even delivered, but I assume she has, and assume all is well. If the thought crossed anyone's mind, it's probably that they're busy with a new born and adjusting, sleepless nights, etc and just haven't had a chance to message colleagues, but just friends and family. Nobody is going to think it rude or inconsiderate, but will just be understanding.