How do I decide where next to go in life?

Struggling

I've recently found myself at a bit of a crossroads in life. Newly single, no real committments besides a car loan. I like my job and enjoy it. Paying high rents in Dublin so probably won't be able to afford to buy anywhere any time soon.
Previously lived in Canada in 2014 and I'm considering applying to go back.
However, I'd be going alone.

I was happiest when I was there but I didn't have much either. Not much money, not so great apartment, not much time off work. But I was happy and enjoyed the culture there.
I wouldn't say I'm not happy now either. I have a good job, a car, a decent apartment which I rent.
I have no idea what choices to make and what's best for me and I guess I never have. I've always wanted more or wanted something else from what I have. It's like I can't sit still and always feel unsatisfied.
Has anyone any advice? People tell me to just take it day by day and see what feels right but I've always felt like this and have no clue where my life is going or what I want to achieve.

Struggling

Anyone?

LonelyBoy84

Struggling wrote: »

Anyone?

What age are you?

Struggling

LonelyBoy84 wrote: »

What age are you?

31

LonelyBoy84

Struggling wrote: »

31

It sounds like you don’t know what you want. That there’s nothing wrong with what you have, but that you feel like you should be happier. Maybe you have some work to do in understandbig how to be grateful & thankful for the positive things in your life.

Unless there’s something specific that would make you happier (ie. moving to Canada) then I’d suggest going to therapy to learn how to be more happy with life in general. Learning to be happy in the moment etc.

Struggling

LonelyBoy84 wrote: »

It sounds like you don’t know what you want. That there’s nothing wrong with what you have, but that you feel like you should be happier. Maybe you have some work to do in understandbig how to be grateful & thankful for the positive things in your life.

I do feel like I should be happier that is absolutely true. I don't know why I'm not happier either. I know things could be worse of course but I feel they could also be better and I'm so frustrated by not knowing.

LegacyUser

Hi OP, I felt similarly to what you have described. Had the well paid job, car, house etc and felt like "well where's this happiness I was promised when I followed all the little milestones I was 'supposed' to follow" I didn't particularly want to be single but then I got in a relationship and wasn't happy either. I tried travelling but I found the feeling followed me.

I then tried a mix of counselling and meditation which have both helped me learn to look at things differently and to really enjoy the freedom in being at crossroads like that, so that I could make a more informed decision. Just my tuppence worth for something to try. When you spend time trying to be aware of your thoughts and feelings you never know what answers you might find arise You might find ways to be happier here as you are, or you may discover you really want to give Canada another shot. Or maybe you'll find a third, fourth, or fifth option. Who knows! My advice would be to really pay attention to your interests, what are you passionate about, and follow that!
And maybe give meditation a shot
Best of luck OP!

lulu1

OP I'm sure you have heard the saying The grass is always greener on the other side. You have to make up your mind what it is you want in life. If you have no ties what is stopping you from trying other things or moving to another country.

It's just a matter of making up your mind

Put it like this if you had a better apartment more money and more time off work in Canada would you go back?