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How much over is my life?

  • 23-08-2018 1:27am
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    LegacyUser
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    I'm not expecting legal advice, but I do need to get a feel for how poor my situation is from people in the know.

    I'm married 6 years, have two children under 4, and 25 years left to pay on a mortgage. We've had sex once in the past 20 months since the last child was born. My wife refuses to come out for a night and leave the kids in case anything happens so we've gone out twice together in almost 4 years. We share the same bed but I'm dying of loneliness here. I just want contact, human touch. I was never lonely in all my years alone. Never. Forget the sex now; this is far worse. This is killing my soul.

    I need to get out of this place but there is no way I could ever, ever rent on top of paying the enormous mortgage & crèche fees. Exasperating my loneliness is the fact that my wife is very strongly connected legally on top of the fact she's a woman. She knows she has all the cards, and that I have none. She already asked me do I want to separate, and suggested I return to my parents' home. I couldn't believe it and ever since that I'm much more afraid and lonely.

    Is my only chance at living again to give up my job and leave Ireland entirely? To disappear?


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