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Housemates boyfriend staying too much

  • 21-08-2018 10:26pm
    #1
    Idonotknow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78 ✭✭


    Hi, so here is the story - I rent an apartment and rented out the spare room to help cover the cost of rent. Everything was fine until she started dating this guy. I just don’t like him at all, he makes me feel very uncomfortable, my boyfriend also does not like him.

    About a month ago she asked us if he could move in. We told her no, that it would be too cramped and that he was not allowed move in, which she seemed to accept.

    But now he is staying here around 5 nights a week. It’s not about money/splitting the bills, it is purely a case of its feeling very cramped with him here.

    Any advise on how to address it/where I stand with her being my licensee?


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  • #2
    Mrs OBumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,295 ✭✭✭✭Mrs OBumble


    She's a licensee.

    Tell her the rules of the house. If she doesn't like them, give her a week to be gone. (Summer's almost over, even if she can't find a place, she can move into a backpackers hostel on weekly rate while she does.)


  • #3
    TheBully
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 876 ✭✭✭TheBully


    Mrs OBumble wrote: »
    She's a licensee.

    Tell her the rules of the house. If she doesn't like them, give her a week to be gone. (Summer's almost over, even if she can't find a place, she can move into a backpackers hostel on weekly rate while she does.)

    U need to grow a pair and tell her straight up it’s too much, she asked could he move in and you said no. U need to stand by what u said because she took no heed. One night a week would be enough, after a night out or something but 5-6 is too much.
    Tell her he is overstaying his welcome and if she is not willing to change immediately you need to be able to tell her she needs to go


  • #4
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,316 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    Idonotknow wrote: »
    About a month ago she asked us if he could move in. We told her no
    Idonotknow wrote: »
    But now he is staying here around 5 nights a week
    Idonotknow wrote: »
    he makes me feel very uncomfortable, my boyfriend also does not like him.
    Give her a weeks notice, and replace her. Let her play silly games somewhere else.
    Idonotknow wrote: »
    he makes me feel very uncomfortable
    If they do anything stupid in the weeks notice, give 24 hours notice.


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