Help with an Irish guy?!

poppydxx

Hi everyone, i’m new here would want some suggestions about an irish guy i met online not too long ago. First of all, i’m not from Ireland and met this guy through dating app we hit it off really well as he is such a nice guy and the only guy that not talking about those silly things.
So after exchanged conversations he asked me as if i want to join him for a weekend getaway (we both have days off that same week) Then i thought about it at first then decided to went and travelled with him for a few days.
And yes we didn’t have sex for a first day/night that we were together. We had a good time travelling together place to place, sightseeing and a good fun. And that last day i had to leave he asked me if i have plan to do that evening i told him should be nice to see some of his friends and have drinks with them again. Later on, he asked me if it’s ok to change the plan to watch a movie together alone by ourself in a balcony of our room so i said yes would be such a good idea and we ended up watching a film together and falling asleep that night.

The thing is that i texted him (he wants me to send him msg if i am home safely) and i continued to text him asking if he decided to go to the place he told me about and he did initiated the conversation though. We talked a night before that we will keep contact and will see each other again but words mean nothing if he’s not taking any actions right?

Do you think this guy will keep his interests in me or am i just ONS? I know we know each other for just a week i really like him. Am i too needy to want things further. Sorry for the long post.

LLMMLL

poppydxx wrote: »

Hi everyone, i’m new here would want some suggestions about an irish guy i met online not too long ago. First of all, i’m not from Ireland and met this guy through dating app we hit it off really well as he is such a nice guy and the only guy that not talking about those silly things.
So after exchanged conversations he asked me as if i want to join him for a weekend getaway (we both have days off that same week) Then i thought about it at first then decided to went and travelled with him for a few days.
And yes we didn’t have sex for a first day/night that we were together. We had a good time travelling together place to place, sightseeing and a good fun. And that last day i had to leave he asked me if i have plan to do that evening i told him should be nice to see some of his friends and have drinks with them again. Later on, he asked me if it’s ok to change the plan to watch a movie together alone by ourself in a balcony of our room so i said yes would be such a good idea and we ended up watching a film together and falling asleep that night.

The thing is that i texted him (he wants me to send him msg if i am home safely) and i continued to text him asking if he decided to go to the place he told me about and he did initiated the conversation though. We talked a night before that we will keep contact and will see each other again but words mean nothing if he’s not taking any actions right?

Do you think this guy will keep his interests in me or am i just ONS? I know we know each other for just a week i really like him. Am i too needy to want things further. Sorry for the long post.

Don’t fully understand your post. Did you sleep together or just fall asleep together?

Did you text him and he’s now ignoring you?

igCorcaigh

Seems to be all going well, give it time, these things can't be rushed.

The Princess Bride

This advice isn't specific to him being Irish poppydxx.
It's just sensible advice I think.

It's probably best to go from conversations to a single date, rather than a weekend away together.
I would feel it's very soon for a weekend away after less than a week of dating, let alone just chatting.

Just because someone seems like a nice person online, doesn't mean that they're as nice in reality.
Best to take it slower.

The last 2 paragraphs of your post aren't clear to me, it's only an ONS if you've been intimate.
Again.
There's no rush.
Best start with a few dates.

poppydxx

[/quote]Don’t fully understand your post. Did you sleep together or just fall asleep together?

Did you text him and he’s now ignoring you?[/quote]

Yes, we did slept together. And i messaged him after i got home so he answered very quick and not that short.

poppydxx

igCorcaigh wrote: »

Seems to be all going well, give it time, these things can't be rushed.

Thank you, i hope so

poppydxx

The Princess Bride wrote: »

This advice isn't specific to him being Irish poppydxx.
It's just sensible advice I think.

It's probably best to go from conversations to a single date, rather than a weekend away together.
I would feel it's very soon for a weekend away after less than a week of dating, let alone just chatting.

Just because someone seems like a nice person online, doesn't mean that they're as nice in reality.
Best to take it slower.

The last 2 paragraphs of your post aren't clear to me, it's only an ONS if you've been intimate.
Again.
There's no rush.
Best start with a few dates.

Sorry for the confusion, i don’t think is ONS because we went out for four days straight and did slept together. Yea, i’ll keep it slow and see what will happen next. Thank you

poppydxx

LLMMLL wrote: »

poppydxx wrote: »

Hi everyone, i’m new here would want some suggestions about an irish guy i met online not too long ago. First of all, i’m not from Ireland and met this guy through dating app we hit it off really well as he is such a nice guy and the only guy that not talking about those silly things.
So after exchanged conversations he asked me as if i want to join him for a weekend getaway (we both have days off that same week) Then i thought about it at first then decided to went and travelled with him for a few days.
And yes we didn’t have sex for a first day/night that we were together. We had a good time travelling together place to place, sightseeing and a good fun. And that last day i had to leave he asked me if i have plan to do that evening i told him should be nice to see some of his friends and have drinks with them again. Later on, he asked me if it’s ok to change the plan to watch a movie together alone by ourself in a balcony of our room so i said yes would be such a good idea and we ended up watching a film together and falling asleep that night.

The thing is that i texted him (he wants me to send him msg if i am home safely) and i continued to text him asking if he decided to go to the place he told me about and he did initiated the conversation though. We talked a night before that we will keep contact and will see each other again but words mean nothing if he’s not taking any actions right?

Do you think this guy will keep his interests in me or am i just ONS? I know we know each other for just a week i really like him. Am i too needy to want things further. Sorry for the long post.

Don’t fully understand your post. Did you sleep together or just fall asleep together?

Did you text him and he’s now ignoring you?

Yes, we did slept together. And i messaged him after i got home so he answered very quick and not that short.

s7ryf3925pivug

You don't sound like you'd manage well in a long distance relationship tbh

poppydxx

Jamie Little Radial wrote: »

You don't sound like you'd manage well in a long distance relationship tbh

Can you give the explanation why can’t i manage the long distance relationship since we’re not exclusive yet hahah 😂 He ghosts me for three days now though 😞

s7ryf3925pivug

poppydxx wrote: »

Can you give the explanation why can’t i manage the long distance relationship since we’re not exclusive yet hahah 😂 He ghosts me for three days now though 😞

Well long distance relationships suit people who like their own space most of the time, and are very chilled out about the whole set up, comfortable with the distance and not knowing what the other person is doing a lot of the time etc.

You sound pretty stressed out for no strong reason I can see, except the fact he's at a distance, which makes you uncertain and maybe somewhat insecure.

You'd be signing up to feel like this a lot of the time, or be looking for excessive contact and reassurance were you to get into a LDR. That is my reading anyway.