Dealing with a difficult co-worker?

The Young Wan

I don't know where to start with this lad.

He is a fairly new guy, started in mid June. He will continuously ask the same questions (what's the password for this? Should I be writing like this?) A fellow team member is getting frustrated that it's taking him this long to learn some basics.

Likes the sound of his own voice. A lot. Particularly at 8am on the bus to work when this Young Wan is barely of this world.

A chronic mansplainer. We work in an international department. I have, on separate occasions, seen him explain the French Revolution to French people, and tell the Dutch team all about the Netherlands. He knows all about it because he has been there once.

He chews with his mouth open. It drives me utterly bananas to hear it, and another co-worker has also picked up on it.

This morning he also roundabout way called a co-worker fat. This co-worker has, in recent times, lost quite a lot of weight, but because it was so much she has some extra skin that she feels insecure about. She cried in the bathroom for about 20 minutes.

There are some of us who feel like we should say something. But we don't know who to (him directly/his manager/another co worker) or how to go about it. So, any tips would really be great.

Jack Moore

The Young Wan wrote: »

I don't know where to start with this lad.

He is a fairly new guy, started in mid June. He will continuously ask the same questions (what's the password for this? Should I be writing like this?) A fellow team member is getting frustrated that it's taking him this long to learn some basics.

Likes the sound of his own voice. A lot. Particularly at 8am on the bus to work when this Young Wan is barely of this world.

A chronic mansplainer. We work in an international department. I have, on separate occasions, seen him explain the French Revolution to French people, and tell the Dutch team all about the Netherlands. He knows all about it because he has been there once.

He chews with his mouth open. It drives me utterly bananas to hear it, and another co-worker has also picked up on it.

This morning he also roundabout way called a co-worker fat. This co-worker has, in recent times, lost quite a lot of weight, but because it was so much she has some extra skin that she feels insecure about. She cried in the bathroom for about 20 minutes.

There are some of us who feel like we should say something. But we don't know who to (him directly/his manager/another co worker) or how to go about it. So, any tips would really be great.

I hope it’s not me. Which bus ?

WanderlustIre

The Young Wan wrote: »

I don't know where to start with this lad.

He is a fairly new guy, started in mid June. He will continuously ask the same questions (what's the password for this? Should I be writing like this?) A fellow team member is getting frustrated that it's taking him this long to learn some basics.

Likes the sound of his own voice. A lot. Particularly at 8am on the bus to work when this Young Wan is barely of this world.

A chronic mansplainer. We work in an international department. I have, on separate occasions, seen him explain the French Revolution to French people, and tell the Dutch team all about the Netherlands. He knows all about it because he has been there once.

He chews with his mouth open. It drives me utterly bananas to hear it, and another co-worker has also picked up on it.

This morning he also roundabout way called a co-worker fat. This co-worker has, in recent times, lost quite a lot of weight, but because it was so much she has some extra skin that she feels insecure about. She cried in the bathroom for about 20 minutes.

There are some of us who feel like we should say something. But we don't know who to (him directly/his manager/another co worker) or how to go about it. So, any tips would really be great.

So outside the bolded lines is irrelevant. I dont doubt he is a nuisance by reading the post, But unfortunately eating with your mouth open is not enough to go to a line manager with, Nor is calling someone fat in a round about way. If he did knowingly say it to hurt her, you could approach the management with bullying report.


Having a bad co worker is terirble as it becomes toxic in the environment. More so a know it all work mate. You can bring the bolded text to management as a not fit for purpose report. If hes hired to do a job and he isnt fit to fullfil it he must surely be let go.

the whole year inn

WanderlustIre wrote: »

So outside the bolded lines is irrelevant. I dont doubt he is a nuisance by reading the post, But unfortunately eating with your mouth open is not enough to go to a line manager with, Nor is calling someone fat in a round about way. If he did knowingly say it to hurt her, you could approach the management with bullying report.


Having a bad co worker is terirble as it becomes toxic in the environment. More so a know it all work mate. You can bring the bolded text to management as a not fit for purpose report. If hes hired to do a job and he isnt fit to fullfil it he must surely be let go.

If he distruts the whole office they could raise it further,sounds like 3 employees have a problem with him and insulting someone to there face is definitly grounds to raise it further ,even if it just stopped him doing it again.

OMM 0000

The Young Wan wrote: »

A chronic mansplainer.

Stop being misandric.

The Young Wan

OMM 0000 wrote: »

Stop being misandric.

It's rude to do regardless of gender

_Brian

Just speak to their manager, explain that they are getting people’s back up including causing someone 20 minutes of crying over harsh comments.

Managers manage, give them the information and let them deal with it.