Work advice

LegacyUser

I have had mental health issues last few years. Trouble with booze and neurosis. I have had a few rows with people. Complaints made. I sent a nasty e mail and lost my temper. I have offered apologies. Sought help. However many people won't forgive or forget. They dont really accept mental illness. They write you off as a crack pot. I get lots of glowering looks. Luckily a lot of my work is on my own. I do have some friends left in my work.
Please advise.

dudara

I don’t necessarily think it’s because people reject mental illness, I think the problem is that you hurt them. Offering an apology based solely on mental illness won’t heal that hurt or make up for it. People need to feel that the apology is sincere, and that you won’t do it again.

How have you gone about trying to apologise?

LegacyUser

Yes of course I have offered an apology to them but often they refuse to discuss it. Prefer to sulk.
Of course mental illness is not a total excuse. But getting help has been hit and miss.

Wesser

I agree with the above poster. It's not that they have any problem with mental illness but you might have upset them or felt uncomfortable.
Also you said that you had an issue with booze, so some of the issues were self induced as opposed to something that just happened to you .

I would advise you to lie low for a while and say as little as possible.
If you remain unhappy then start looking for a new job....

Bobtheman

Of course i have offered apologies. To meet. Refused.I have been struggling to get help. Poor services. Actually non existent. What has bugged me a lot is that others not directly involved have taken positions without even knowing the full story.

I have had things done to me that i have not complained about but now im beginning to think i should.

Bobtheman

I just want a work place without glowering looks and where i can focus on recovery. Believe me my mistakes are not huge but i work with a lot of sulky people.

Addle

Just accept responsibility for your actions and move on from it.
Others will eventually too.
You don't have to be friends with colleagues, just civil.