Help me please-Binge eating

whitesheep

I'm having terrible problems with binge eating. I just can't stop and sometimes I make myself throw up. I'm off on holidays I a few months and would love to get into the bikini again. I'm size 14 and would love to be a small 12.

I just can't stop it's disgusting I just eat and eat till I can eat no more. I sometimes have to forse the food down as I feel so full. it's all crap I buy in petrol stations. I usually don't make myself get sick cos I hate doing it. the only reason I do is to stop feeling so horribly full.

What will I do? I've been going to counciling for a year now and I've worked through a few things mostly relating to my confidence and I consider myself a happy person. nothing seriously wrong with me. I have a lovely family myself and my husband get on well kids are healthy no major financial problems.

I know I should stop every morning I wake up and say today is the day but it never is.

thanks in advance for any advice

You have an eating disorder.

Speak with your GP.

Bunny Colvin

Drink more water. 6 litres a day minimum. Drink coffee.

Start running, download C25K and work on that. You'll naturally be inclined to watch what you eat when you're making the effort to get into shape.

OP, binge eating is very distressing. It's like you are stuck in a cycle of 'feel like crap so binge feel even more crap so binge'. Often there are psychological issues underlying all of this. The mods should move your thread to the Personal Issues Forum. You will get more advice over there. Best of luck.

whitesheep

JayZeus wrote: »

You have an eating disorder.

Speak with your GP.

Why do you think that? how can gp Help??

J. Smith

As another has said: drink more water. 4-6 pints per day. Good luck!

whitesheep

whitesheep wrote: »

Why do you think that? how can gp Help??

A GP would put you in touch with mental health services but you are already attending a counsellor. Working on confidence is great OP but there's something else at play here which leads you to binge.

whitesheep

[Deleted User] wrote: »

A GP would put you in touch with mental health services but you are already attending a counsellor. Working on confidence is great OP but there's something else at play here which leads you to binge.

Thanks I very around and around this with my council or and we just can't seem to find what is causing it. she thinks there's something 5hat make me do it and I can't find anything wrong with me!

NiceFella

OP I think your problem may be a little more serious than other posters suggestions of drinking more water as a possible remedy. You eat food the same way an alcoholic needs drink to get by.

The root cause of addictions like these can be deeply hidden in our minds. You may have done it to comfort yourself from some stressful period in your life(you might not even remember it because these things can happen even when we are babies). You need to get professional psychological help IMO. I'd suggest CBT(cognitive behavioural therapy) because it works on unlearning the behaviour and addressing why you do it. You need to get a referral from a GP, who unfortunately to get a good one these days is a rarity. They tend to be very slow about getting the help a patient needs. A counsellor won't be able to help with this kind of problem.

whitesheep

NiceFella wrote: »

OP I think your problem may be a little more serious than other posters suggestions of drinking more water as a possible remedy. You eat food the same way an alcoholic needs drink to get by.

The root cause of addictions like these can be deeply hidden in our minds. You may have done it to comfort yourself from some stressful period in your life(you might not even remember it because these things can happen even when we are babies). You need to get professional psychological help IMO. I'd suggest CBT(cognitive behavioural therapy) because it works on unlearning the behaviour and addressing why you do it. You need to get a referral from a GP, who unfortunately to get a good one these days is a rarity. They tend to be very slow about getting the help a patient needs. A counsellor won't be able to help with this kind of problem.

Thanks I think your right. I exercise a lot and am very fit. I just googled CBT in my area and I came across the biggest chances I've ever met I could go as far as to say she's a con artist. I've seen het set up multiple businesses over the years and burn her suppliers and set up under a different name. what qualifications do you need?? is there a recognised body?

Sardonicat

OP, contact BodyWhys, the support organisation for those suffering from an eating disorder. They will be able to help.
www.bodywhys.ie

NiceFella

whitesheep wrote:

Thanks I think your right. I exercise a lot and am very fit. I just googled CBT in my area and I came across the biggest chances I've ever met I could go as far as to say she's a con artist. I've seen het set up multiple businesses over the years and burn her suppliers and set up under a different name. what qualifications do you need?? is there a recognised body?

CBT is not quakery. It's based on clinical psychology and has shown to be very effective for many behavioural issues including eating disorders. Now there are con merchants who pretend that they are qualified. I'm sure you can find a legitimate practitioner here. They will have a high level education in psychology for sure.

silverharp

might be worth getting a copy of Brain over Binge, it has a lot of positive feedback

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Brain-over-Binge-Conventional-Recovered/dp/0984481702/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1533326280&sr=8-1&keywords=brain+over+binge

Tiddlypeeps

NiceFella wrote: »

CBT is not quakery. It's based on clinical psychology and has shown to be very effective for many behavioural issues including eating disorders. Now there are con merchants who pretend that they are qualified. I'm sure you can find a legitimate practitioner here. They will have a high level education in psychology for sure.

CBT is not quackery but it's also not a protected term, so any Tom, Dick or Harry with a PLC in counselling can call themselves qualified.

Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Psychiatrist are protected terms, you're GP would be a good person to talk to about which would suit best. Then look for one near you that practices CBT.

whitesheep

Tiddlypeeps wrote: »

CBT is not quackery but it's also not a protected term, so any Tom, Dick or Harry with a PLC in counselling can call themselves qualified.

Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Psychiatrist are protected terms, you're GP would be a good person to talk to about which would suit best. Then look for one near you that practices CBT.

ok I'll ask my gp which one to go for. feeling a bit better now after reading a bit more about it and knowing I can try and get help. I've been reading on it since. I actually think I have an eating disorder and before I put this post up I just thought I was lacking self control.

I can relate to nearly all the symptoms of BED (binge eating disorder)

I'll buy the book and see about CGT. I'm going to do mindfulness too.

Thanks do much to everyone for being so nice. I genuinely mean that. I thought I'd get a cop yourself and and eat healthy abuse.

thanks

Foweva Awone

Look up Overeaters Anonymous, might be worth going to a couple of meetings, see if you identify with people there.

stop animal cruelty

Op this resonates with me a lot. I turn to food when I'm feeling upset and anxious, it's like crap food is the only thing that can comfort me.

I will eat as much crap as I can, even first thing in the morning. I don't make myself throw up, but I feel so shamed and disgusted with myself. Sometimes it lasts a day, sometimes a week.

I know what the root causes of it are for me, anxiety and depression. Its things about the past I can't change and in the present, can't fix other things. Things that are essential for some kind of normal life. And I worry a lot about them that I need these quick distraction and satisfaction.

I don't have a solution, only that when I do a food shop I try not to buy crap. Times when I do comfort eat I will try not to eat too much ****e but if I'm too upset I eat it all.

Perhaps you should talk to someone new about it? it is a very upsetting and unhealthy way of living.

Hope you find peace and overcome this x

Triceratops Ballet

Op I totally relate I used to have this issue too, tackled it with a combo of meds and counselling.
I was very reluctant to take meds but really they were something that did the heavy lifting so to speak while I worked on my issues through counselling.
My counsellor was also a cbt practitioner and these techniques were incorporated into out sessions. The first big thing she wanted me to do was to make note of the times I was eating (for me it was evening) and simply fill that time with something else. Initially this was just a diversionary tactic, but I took up Olympic weightlifting as a sport and totally fell in love with it. Getting involved in that made me consider my body and how I fuel it in a different way and really helped me overcome my issues. I came off the meds just over a year later, and finished with counselling a further 6 months later.
That's nearly 3 years ago now. I've kept up the oly lifting and have gotten involved in other sports since. I have a totally different relationship with food now, and though I don't think one ever fully gets over issues with food, 99% of the time I'm absolutely fine.

My advice is talk to your gp and don't hold anything back, be really frank about what's going on and even why you think it might be going on. Then with your counsellor if their method isn't helping you reduce the frequency of your binges it's time to consider another, I'd recommend a psychologist who also practices cbt so you're getting a more holistic type of counselling, the traditional talk it out type along with some cbt for coping techniques. I hope it works out for you the way it did for me.

Foweva Awone

Foweva Awone wrote: »

Look up Overeaters Anonymous, might be worth going to a couple of meetings, see if you identify with people there.

Overeaters Anonymous changed my friends life. People assume it’s only for those suffering from obesity but it deals with all types of eating disorders and it’s always helpful to talk with people you can relate to and who can relate to you. There’s local groups everywhere. Good luck.

Redser87

OP while I don't think you should go it alone, the CBT for Dummies journal (unfortunately named!!) could be a good way to supplement the support systems mentioned by others.https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1119975352/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_xoDzBb99BFE54

whitesheep

I'm good today don't feel the urge to binge at all. Hopefully I can keep it up. overeaters annonoms is actually a thing?? don't I'm ready to talk in public about it. I'd fell less judged at alcoholics annonoms, I suppose I know a lot of alcoholics and can relate to it!