Sending an Opt out of weddings notice!

freshpopcorn

Would you be in favor of this becoming popular?
Every day we hear people being summoned to weddings.
They moan about the hair, make-up, transport, annual leave etc.
However they continue to go.
Either by posting a status online/sending an e-mail or sending a notice to all your friends/family. Saying you love them but you wish not to be invited to their wedding if one was to occur in the future because weddings aren't your thing.
Would you like the idea of this?

facehugger99

It's a bit presumptuous to opt out of something you haven't been invited to yet.

Fighting Tao

I’m not sure what new thing you think you’ve invented as people can opt out by saying ‘no’ when invited.

freshpopcorn

Fighting Tao wrote: »

I’m not sure what new thing you think you’ve invented as people can opt out by saying ‘no’ when invited.

I never claimed to have invented anything new.

I'd like to know tough which family/friends liked weddings and which one's hated them.

wexandproud

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Would you be in favor of this becoming popular?
Every day we hear people being summoned to weddings.
They moan about the hair, make-up, transport, annual leave etc.
However they continue to go.
Either by posting a status online/sending an e-mail or sending a notice to all your friends/family. Saying you love them but you wish not to be invited to their wedding if one was to occur in the future because weddings aren't your thing.
Would you like the idea of this?

i have never once been summoned or has anybody i know ever been summoned to a wedding . Lots of INVITES to attend though

salmocab

People think they are a summons that’s all, I’ve turned down a few invites over the years for various reasons including relatives and close friends as well as more distant things like workmates etc. people don’t mean mind they know some folk have things going on. A few people couldn’t make mine and I didn’t bat an eyelid. I actually in general enjoy weddings but this topic annoys me, people giving out about being invited can easily just say no they can’t make it but enjoy your day.

freshpopcorn

salmocab wrote: »

People think they are a summons that’s all, I’ve turned down a few invites over the years for various reasons including relatives and close friends as well as more distant things like workmates etc. people don’t mean mind they know some folk have things going on. A few people couldn’t make mine and I didn’t bat an eyelid. I actually in general enjoy weddings but this topic annoys me, people giving out about being invited can easily just say no they can’t make it but enjoy your day.

Really agree with you here! I just don't understand why people don't say no.

Grayson

wexandproud wrote: »

i have never once been summoned or has anybody i know ever been summoned to a wedding . Lots of INVITES to attend though

I'm summoned. They gather around a pentacle and chant my name till I appear.

freshpopcorn

freshpopcorn wrote: »

I never claimed to have invented anything new.

I'd like to know tough which family/friends liked weddings and which one's hated them.

If they knew you at all, they’d know your feeling. A niece sent me a text saying how she knows how reluctant my OH would be to attend her wedding but to feel free to bring one of my sons or a friend, so I did. Had a great day and OH collected us afterwards.

iamwhoiam

Never in my life have I been summoned to a wedding . I have said No thank to one or two for specific reasons and got a lovely note back .
OP . You must just be unlucky in your circle to have people who summon you

Fighting Tao

freshpopcorn wrote: »

I never claimed to have invented anything new.

I'd like to know tough which family/friends liked weddings and which one's hated them.

Tattoo it to your forehead and post a photo on social media. It’s the best way to let people know that you are offended to be invited to a wedding.

sydthebeat

Do people really not understand what the RSVP means on a wedding invite?

The Backwards Man

sydthebeat wrote: »

Do people really not understand what the RSVP means on a wedding invite?

Really Sorry Very Poor

Spanish Eyes

The new trend for wedding websites inludes a Yes/No type of thing on the invite page.

There is no room to send a note of regret just Y/N. Well on the websites I have seen anyway. A bit too black and white for me!

I suppose you could send a note or email if you have the addresses.

salmocab

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

The new trend for wedding websites inludes a Yes/No type of thing on the invite page.

There is no room to send a note of regret just Y/N. Well on the websites I have seen anyway. A bit too black and white for me!

I suppose you could send a note or email if you have the addresses.

In fairness if you have no way to contact the couple it’s unlikely they know you well enough to invite you anyway. I’ve always just rang the person to say I couldn’t make it and still send back the rsvp after.

I love going to weddings so the concept being suggested is alien to me.

TomSweeney

I just don't open wedding invites, and then I act all surprised when the wedding is done and over , "But but ... I never got an invite .... "