To go home or not....

skinny_guy

Hi everyone,

Irish expat here and over the last few weeks I have been having difficulty making a decision on whether to move home, go travelling or stay in Canada.

I have been over here almost 2 years have gotten my permanent residency. I have a Canadian boyfriend who I really love but over the last while I can feel myself getting fed up with Canada. I have recently quit my job because I was getting sick of it and would like to focus on changing my career.

I'm also living with friends from home but one of them I'm finding it very hard to live with which is not helping. I have other friends who I hang out with a lot here but they are moving away to another country in the next few weeks.

I feel like the only reason I am staying here is for my boyfriend and I'm not sure if I should stay for just this reason. I'm also worried that I will make the wrong decision of moving home and regretting it. My head is all over the place and I really need some advice!

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!

Shelga

Would your boyfriend consider moving to Ireland with you, even for a bit?

In my experience, the niggling feeling of wanting to go home doesn’t tend to just go away by itself.

skinny_guy

Hi Shelga,

Well he will be coming home with me in a few weeks for a visit. To be honest I don't think he would, he is very family orientated and I don't know how he would adjust to living in a smaller country. I guess I will find out when he does come home but my guess is probably not. My feeling are always up and down about it.

never_mind

skinny_guy wrote: »

Hi everyone,

Irish expat here and over the last few weeks I have been having difficulty making a decision on whether to move home, go travelling or stay in Canada.

I have been over here almost 2 years have gotten my permanent residency. I have a Canadian boyfriend who I really love but over the last while I can feel myself getting fed up with Canada. I have recently quit my job because I was getting sick of it and would like to focus on changing my career.

I'm also living with friends from home but one of them I'm finding it very hard to live with which is not helping. I have other friends who I hang out with a lot here but they are moving away to another country in the next few weeks.

I feel like the only reason I am staying here is for my boyfriend and I'm not sure if I should stay for just this reason. I'm also worried that I will make the wrong decision of moving home and regretting it. My head is all over the place and I really need some advice!

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hi OP

Can I ask what age you are? To be honest if you don’t see a future in Canada then I would consider going home sooner rather than later. It’s really down to your aims in life and why you went to Canada - did you get what you wanted out of ireland for a particular reason? Has that reason either been achieved or resolved? What would coming home be for you in terms of friends, employability, rent, family etc. Ireland is definitely improving but lifestyle here just isn’t the same as Canada.

The relationship shouldn’t be taken too much into it. No offence but it doesn’t seem like you would be that into him to change your decision to stay. If you really love him then he would be more central in your OP which it isn’t. If I’m wrong that’s fine but no matter who you’re with if you aren’t happy in an environment it will only last so long.

Maybe consider coming home before your OH and chatting to family’s and friend about your possible intentions to move home. Again, grass is always greener and I have friends who regret returning home.. but I did too and I don’t regret it at all.

All the best x

NiceFella

From what you've said,I'm not sure if your fed up with Canada rather than just fed up with the kinda work you seemed resigned to over there. Perhaps you could try change job role to something you might like. A friend of mine saved to go to college over there and seems to like it. Although he's been fairly commited to Canada for a while. Basically all I'm saying is you might be confusing home sickness with just annoying life situations. Like your friend that is annoying, you could always try move in with the boyfriend. Not saying your not home sick..it might be true that ye are. Just I suppose ye have to identify what's causing the issue. Good luck!