groom wedding speech

teednab-el

I am getting married in January 2019 and i am freaking out about the speech I have to give as the groom. I don't know how I am going to talk in front of 250 people. I dont know what to say or do? can I write it down and read it out? I cannot talk in front of a crowd out of my head. I'm having nightmares about it.

Can anyone give me a few pointers on how to do this and what to say?

Thank you.

Blazer

teednab-el wrote: »

I am getting married in January 2019 and i am freaking out about the speech I have to give as the groom. I don't know how I am going to talk in front of 250 people. I dont know what to say or do? can I write it down and read it out? I cannot talk in front of a crowd out of my head. I'm having nightmares about it.

Can anyone give me a few pointers on how to do this and what to say?

Thank you.

Relax man. You get the easy part.
It’s the best man who’s under the most pressure as regards speeches that day.
All you have to do is say a few nice things about your wife and family keeping it short and thank her parents, your parents, the priest, the hotel and all the guests for coming and bobs your uncles.
And yes you can write it down in notes.

Bacchus

Blazer wrote: »

Relax man. You get the easy part.
It’s the best man who’s under the most pressure as regards speeches that day.

Not to be putting the Best Men of the world under pressure but yeah, the groom has an easy job. You can literally stand up, thank people for sharing your day and say a couple of nice things about your wife and BOOM, job done. Perfect speech. You can add to that whatever you feel comfortable with... a mention to your best man, your parents, her parents, etc.

The ONE rule of a groom's speech is say something nice about your new wife! Seriously, I've seen it so many times whether it's short or long speech, that the groom said nothing about his wife.

aquinn

I was best person at my Brothers Wedding last year.

I practicised my speech a few times, but not many. My biggest issue was due to nerves speaking too fast.

Practice it yourself either with company or on your own. Take it easy. Take your time when delivering the speech.

A friend at her Mothers funeral had her speech with all pauses in caps so she had time to slow down and deliver it perfectly. Do the same. Write PAUSE within your specch so you don't just rattle it off and take it easy. It'll help.

Do practise it but not to the point that you just rattle it off like a prayer.

Definitely ensure to thank all suplliers and welcome new family. Say how great everyone looks and for all the effort they have put into your day etc. As above say something about your new bride. Of course print or write your speech down. Try and make eye contact with people though and just don't stare at the speech.

In good news you may not get 250 with 10-20% drop off so they'll be fewer there on the day.

Don't be freaking out!

Hector Savage

It's a load of absolute bollocks and people hate long speeches - they are boring and insincere.
Trust me - keep it simple, keep it short - but do practice it a few times.

They will appreciate it , I did a real short speech for my brothers wedding as best man and afterwards people were saying "fair play to you for cutting out all the BULL****...."

People are sick of it at weddings - they just wanna have a nice meal and get drunk.

Didn't even give a speech at my own wedding ... in fact neither did my brother, we had a small speech free wedding.

irelandrover

If you are that nervous about it then just dont give a speech. It's your day and there is no need to do something that makes you that nervous.

iluvfatfrogs

I got married a months ago
3 min speech
Don't understand thanking the suppliers - i paid them for their services.
Nobody wants to hear ya rattling on, especially if you're just repeating what the best man has already said...."don't the bridesmaids look gorgeous today" etcetc

Do whatever you want and don't be worrying about anybody else is my advice

muckwarrior

As someone who dislikes (and used to be terrified of) public speaking, aquinn's advice is good. Prepare something short and practise it. But when I say practise, I mean out loud! Saying it in your head doesn't help. When it comes to actually speaking out loud it's a completely different ball game (as I found out in the past). There doesn't even need to be anybody there, just go to an empty room or the middle of a field or wherever. Once you've done this a few times you'll find that the words will flow more naturally and you don't need to worry about getting stuck or your mind going blank.

Also, remember that everyone is on your side. Nobody is there to judge you.

893bet

Join toastmasters. I know plenty who rave about it.

splinter65

3 minutes tops if at all.
“I just want to thank you all so much for coming to share our special day. Happiest day of my life...so far! (Pause for ripple of laughter)
To the O’Brien family (turn towards brides parents), thank you for making me so welcome,
To the bridesmaids (turn to them)....stunning!
And Kate...Wow (lift a glass of anything) here’s to us!
Now sit down.