Want to travel and work

LegacyUser

I want to travel and work. I want to go to Canada. I want to be close to America and Canada is my only option. I'm getting on with age, and don't have long left with their eligibility and age. I have a few months before I'm too old to be considered for the visa. I have one issue, one thing that is stopping me. I have nowhere to store my things for a year or two away. There are things I can sell and get rid of but there's things I can't bring and can't bring with me. I have a toxic family. They will not apologise for their nasty and toxic behaviour towards me. My option was to put up with it and have a family or not put up with it. Unfortunately, I just had enough of their toxic abuse towards me. What was worse, they would rather have me walk away than apologise, it's very hurtful behaviour. So I do not have them or their help... I'm fed up in my job and going nowhere. I don't know how to get out or how to start over again. So what do I do, I want to go but I have so much things. Or do I stay here and figure out what I want to do with my life?

Airyfairy12

Is this about travelling or your family? Can you sell some of your stuff? maybe give some away to charity too? then you wont have so much to store

Kitty6277

Could you put some of your stuff in storage while you go travelling? No idea what that's likely to cost mind you, but it could be an option

joeguevara

Ok a few things. your user name is travel bug so that is a start. You don’t outline anything in your post that demonstrates that you want or need to go to Canada other than the fact that it’s close to the HS.

The main theme that resonates from your post is that you have family issues and you dislike your job. That does not mean that you need to move to Canada. I think that a beneficial step for you is to take a short break. This could be a completely chilled 2 months on a beach meeting new people or maybe teaching English as a foreign langueage or volunteering with a charity in a different country.

Whatever you do, I think you should use a break to determine what are your core values that you want to nurture and what job/time away/ career can help you achieve this. So many people dwell on careers and jump into countries that they haven’t a clue about without taking the time to actually think what are their long term goals and aspirations.

Finally, you think you have or may actually have a toxic relationship with your family. Think how you can fix this or if you can’t how can you do something to distance yourself without hurting yourself or your blood. Family is everything and as you get older you will realize that more. Of course we all think in our early 20s that they don’t understand us or are holding us back. The older you get it may become clearer that they had wisdom and were looking out for you. When you figure out that, you don’t want to realize that you disowned them.

The above is my opinion and experience. Of course a lot of people’s families are toxic and you should have disowned them. I suppose the point of this post is you take time to determine the best course of action for yourself, be sure that it’s the right decision and make it happen without rashly alienating blood because of expierences now!

LegacyUser

Your opening line talks about traveling. By the looks of things starting fresh might do you good. You also like America and you want to be close to the states.

Is it really the right course of action though?

From the middle of the post you launch into work issues and family problems. Reading the post, it comes across to me as if you want to run away and do so as an exercise to see if your family even notices or cares that you are gone. How does that fix things?

Tread very carefully. Canada is a very hard. The cost of living is high. The winter is cold. If you have work that will carry you and make a decent wage and living where you are not scraping by, go by all means. Maybe you can ask a friend to see if they can help you with storage.

You really have to think about the 'what ifs' - Canada doesn't work out for you, what then?
Will your finances be drained? Do you come back to Ireland? Where do you go then? Will you be able to afford rent upon returning? Do you go home if you are broke? Will you get a job straight away coming home? Will you get social welfare if you've been out from the country for a year or two? Being broke, jobless and homeless will be a worse situation.

Maybe focusing on making your life more steady here in Ireland might be more appropriate. Focus on retraining and gaining new employment. Consider counseling to work on family problems.

the_syco

If you've only a few months left, that means that you're 34. Please be aware that you need to activate the Canada work/holiday IEC visa before you turn 35.

From what you say, the clean break from your family may do you good.

travel.bug wrote: »

I have one issue, one thing that is stopping me. I have nowhere to store my things for a year or two away. There are things I can sell and get rid of but there's things I can't bring and can't bring with me.

I've friends over here (Toronto) that bought everything with them via a shipping container. This arrived 3 months after they arrived, and this time allowed them to get a job and an apartment that they could put the stuff into, and not have to carry it around with them. They have since gotten Permanent Residency, and plan to stay for the next few years.

LegacyUser

It's not very clear from your post but it does appear that you've cut contact with your family. I really think you need to speak to a professional in relation to your family issues. It looks to me as if you are holding out for your family and expecting apologies but they are not reciprocating. You need to understand what cutting contact is all about. You have zero contact with them and stop placing expectations on them. I think you need to speak to a professional so that you can become happy and confident in your decision and life without your family. Running away to Canada isn't going to fix things. Your mind and thought process will still be there with you following you about because it's a part of you.

heretothere

Sell your stuff and just leave. Or ask around if any friends have space for smaller more sentimental items. You'll always pick up a new bed when you get home

LegacyUser

Just an update, I've got a friend who offered space in their house for things I can't bare to sell. Their house isn't going anywhere and my stuff will be safe. I have the visa and hope to go over within the next few months.