Should I go?

LegacyUser

I moved to Dublin over 4 years ago after being in another city were I had no social life at all. While Dublin has been great to me as I've been able to meet some great friend here and had such a good time I've gotten bored of the city. It has really hit home since I've returned from a few months of travelling and I'm unsure as to what the next step is.

Before going travelling my plan was to get a new job once I returned (I took a career break to go travelling so back in the same job ATM) but now looking for a new job here doesn't interest me as it once did. One thing I know for sure is that I cannot stay in my current role much longer as while it's very comfortable and good money for what I actually do I'm not pushing myself as I should be. I kinda feel like I'm stuck in a rut there.

I was out with my bunch of friends for the last few weekends and besides a few of them I don't actually enjoy their company anymore. While it sounds snotty of me to say that it just that I've started to question why I am friends with some of them.

I have talked about this to a few of my friends and they've been saying to me it's normal to feel like this after travelling. They've told me to wait a few months and I'll be back to normal but TBH I don't want to go back to normal. Nothing is new or exciting for me and it feels like I'm not moving on with my life.

I was thinking of going somewhere I could get better at Spanish but it's unlikely I'd get a good job in a Spanish speaking country but then I was talking about this to another friend. She is moving to Australia in a few months and she told me that I should go with her. I never really considered going there as in my mind it's where all douche bag Irish go but I've always wanted to work in a different country and if I wait until after my next birthday I'll be too old to apply for the visa. I'm being kicked out of my accommodation at roughly the same time my friend wants to go so it would be good timing in that regard. I work in IT so if things don't work out there I think I can easily find a new job if I return here.

There is one problem though as the girl who has been trying to convince me to join her in Australia, I kinda have the hots for her. So I'm trying to figure out if my judgement is clouded or not. As it could be a massive mistake to follow her if it is clouded.

Any advice?

LolaJJ

We're only here once and the world is a big place. As someone who sacrificed travel opportunity in my twenties to focus on my career I can tell you already that it's the greatest regret of my life. I take 2 and 3-week breaks where I can to see new and exotic locations and just wish that I wasn't so tied down here. I also feel a bit bored when I get home because travelling is amazing - but I accept that my life is here and I'm excited and motivated by saving for the next trip, lucky for me my partner thinks the same way.

Only you know whether or not the invite appeals to you because you fancy the girl involved. Do you think she might have feelings for you? Have you thought about the repercussions of that becoming an awkward scenario?

There's nothing to stop you from making the trip to Australia on your own? There's huge expat communities in these places and if you're working you will meet people yourself. It's all part of the adventure

Labcoats and Running Shoes

OP this sounds incredibly similar to a thread posted a few days ago where a guy went off travelling for a while and then came back and said he struggled with girls and laid out girls A, B, and C who he had been with. Girl B clearly had the hots for him and was trying to convince him to emigrate with her.

If it is the same person, I'd recommend re-reading the good advice on the thread. If it's not the same person, I'd recommend reading that thread for a bit of advice.

I'd also recommend asking yourself this: Do you want to go to Australia or do you just want to hook up with this girl? If it's the former then I say go and enjoy yourself, however, if it's the latter then I'd be wary of travelling to the other side of the world for a girl who may or may not be interested in dating you. What happens if you get there, start dating and realise you're completely incompatible? Do you stay? Do you come home? Don't make this decision lightly. There are other places you can move to, find somewhere you'd really like to go!

heretothere

ShouldIGo wrote: »

I never really considered going there as in my mind it's where all douche bag Irish go

I know there is a lot of other bit to your post but I find that a very unfair thing to say! The majority that went really felt the main choices were to sit at home in Ireland or go to Australia.

Anyway I think you should go, it is a great country. The lifestyle is great so much to do outside and each big city has its own personality so surely one of them will appeal to you. If you can afford to I would try a few out before settling into a job. Although it'd good craic Darwin probably doesn't have much of an IT scene.

I have found it really hard to adjust back into 'the boring life' back home. I went travelling for the best part of 4 years spending no more than 6 months in a place. Usually a lot less.

If you want to go, then go.