Wedding gift

bri007

Hi all, my partner and I are going to a wedding in a few weeks time.

We are staying over and it is 190km from Dublin, we are staying over with the hotel costing us €230 for the 2 of us. It is an expensive place the wedding venue is, so the wedding must be costing a lot on the couple.

They are cousins of mine and we are all close, just quick question, it’s been a few years since we were last at a wedding, we were thinking of giving €200-€250 is this enough or too little?

Thanks in advance

Toots

That's more than enough, especially considering the cost of the overnight stay.

bri007

Thanks for the reply, yeah we were thinking that but wasn’t sure. Thanks we will probably go with the €200 then, we would have given more only that it’s costing us a lot overall.. we sound like right cheap people but I can assure you all we are not that bad

Toots wrote: »

That's more than enough, especially considering the cost of the overnight stay.

Toots

You don't sound cheap at all!

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bri007 wrote: »

Thanks for the reply, yeah we were thinking that but wasn’t sure. Thanks we will probably go with the €200 then, we would have given more only that it’s costing us a lot overall.. we sound like right cheap people but I can assure you all we are not that bad

With the cost of accommodation I would consider 150!

Bacchus

bri007 wrote: »

It is an expensive place the wedding venue is, so the wedding must be costing a lot on the couple.

Irrelevant. It's their choice on where to host their wedding and how much to spend. Don't get pulled into feeling like you have to pay for their wedding.

bri007 wrote: »

we were thinking of giving €200-€250 is this enough or too little?

Sounds like plenty. I would have thought €150-200 is the norm with anything above that reserved for a couple you are particularly close with.

I personally don't take the cost of attending into account when giving a gift. We give 200 as a couple as standard, increasing depending on how close the person is or if we are in the bridal party/groomsman etc. This is the same if we can go home the night of the wedding or if it involves going abroad for a week.

bri007

Thanks all for the reply’s, feel a whole lot better now . We are saving like crazy to try and get a mortgage so every little bit helps, and this wedding is costing as much as a last minute holiday abroad . We had to watch everything we buy on the broker recommendations, so this is our holiday so to speak when we go to the wedding!

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missmatty

Agree, we got married last year and 150e would have been the 'average' amount, even on the high side of average. Some friends who were not especially close friends gave 200e and I was completely shocked. A lovely thought but totally unnecessary.