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Unique dilemma - guy with lots of female mates but wants to make group more inclusive

  • 11-05-2018 7:19pm
    #1
    OceanKai
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Hello,

    So this is a strange one. Basically I'm a guy who was single for almost over the first twenty years of my life and in the last few years got together with my girlfriend whom I love to bits. I enjoy both spending time with my girlfriend and going out socially with herself and other friends for dinner, nights out, etc. The thing is that I don't have a lot of close, reliable male friends who can come out with us as often as our mutual female friends. This has led to small problems like us not being able to go out with friends when one of the girls is the only one available and would feel like a third wheel (This doesn't happen often, as I say our female friends are reliable for the most part), we also have one female friend who is looking for a boyfriend, and if I had more male friends I'd love to help with introducing her to guys because she's always really friendly around me and has been a great support to my girlfriend in tough times, which I am forever grateful for, and I'd love us to be able to double date if our friends were in relationships too.

    I also don't know how to go about making more male friends. A lot of lads in my workplace seem to have their own groups of friends so it would feel awkward for me to ask if they were up for something and be thrown in with a full group of new people other than me. I have heard there's an app called Girl Crew where girls can say for example they are going to a concert and have no one to go with and through the app they could meet someone who would be interested. Is there anything similar for lads where you can get responses to specific requests like that?

    As I say all of this isn't a huge issue, there are people who have it worse, there was a time when I had mostly male friends and very few female friends, but I'd just love some advice on how to go about making more male friends, particularly some who would be interested in getting to know our mutual friends.

    Apologies for the long post.


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  • #2
    368100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,067 ✭✭✭368100


    You sound like you only want to make male friends so that girl isnt awkward at meals or so you can sort out the other girl's love life. Essentially filling a gap in other people's lives.

    IMO you shouldnt have an agenda like that trying to make friends, its false. It should be about who you get on with and who you enjoy spending time with and vice versa.


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