Just started new job-Family Bereavement

Gael23

Im starting a new job this week but I have a family member who I'm very close to who is very ill and I'm a little worried how I can deal with work if she dies during the week and I'm only after starting.
Do I say nothing and wait until it happens then just say a relative has died and I need a few days off or do I be upfront and say I have a dying close relative and I am going to need some time off very soon?

Odelay

Gael23 wrote: »

Im starting a new job this week but I have a family member who I'm very close to who is very ill and I'm a little worried how I can deal with work if she dies during the week and I'm only after starting.
Do I say nothing and wait until it happens then just say a relative has died and I need a few days off or do I be upfront and say I have a dying close relative and I am going to need some time off very soon?

Just be upfront and explain the situation. Let them plan, it makes it easier for the employer. Don't milk the time off, but I think you know that.

Gael23

Odelay wrote: »

Just be upfront and explain the situation. Let them plan, it makes it easier for the employer. Don't milk the time off, but I think you know that.

Yes absolutely, I’ll Need 2 days at most.

Cash_Q

Gael23 wrote:

Yes absolutely, I’ll Need 2 days at most.

So sorry for your troubles. Don't under estimate how this may affect you. Take it one day at a time and don't rush back until you're really ready.

Postgrad10

Give the new employer a heads up as to the situation. You've a tough time ahead so don't be hard on yourself for needing the few days off as you are entitled to them. They should be very understanding.

PhoenixParker

Have a quiet word with your boss on the first day.

Gael23

This morning they told us she’s got 2 days at most and I’m supposed to start on Friday. Going to be a very close call

Postgrad10

You may end up delaying your start date so. Just be open and honest and let your employer know what's happening.

Gael23

It’s through an agency. I’ll wait and see what tomorrow brings. I was supposed to start yesterday and changed that for another reason so I’d feel awkward about delaying again

Postgrad10

Aim for going in on Friday then and start as normal unless you have news in the meantime. If it was me I'd probably give the agency the heads up though to be professional . That's up to you.

ballyargus

Heads up all the way. Not only will it be appreciated, it's the right thing to do. There may be people who have parcelled time off to onboard you and are parking other stuff to do that. Let them plan

Gael23

She died at 2:00 this morning. At least now with the bank holiday I’ll be off anyway.

GalwayGrrrrrl

Sorry to hear that. Don’t worry about work, family comes first. When you are ready to go back to work let the agency know.

Gael23

xfactorfan23 wrote: »

Sorry to hear that. Don’t worry about work, family comes first. When you are ready to go back to work let the agency know.

Today is my first day. There’s nothing I can really do today so will go in. I got about 3 hours sleep last night which won’t help though

bobbysands81

Gael23 wrote: »

She died at 2:00 this morning. At least now with the bank holiday I’ll be off anyway.

Sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself.

Postgrad10

Sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself and your family. You'll be in shock which is totally natural, make sure you are taking a course of vitamins.

Gael23

Just lack of sleep hitting me really.

Postgrad10

Just get through the day. Then go home have a good dinner and get an early night if you can , even a few hours rest this evening will do you good even if it's just to close your eyes. I know you'll probably want to help out with family but don't be hard on yourself , having went through the first day of work on little sleep.

Cash_Q

Sorry for your loss. If you're not up to work on Tuesday don't put yourself under pressure and just ring in and say you've suffered a family bereavement. If you do go in, try to let your manager or supervisor know so that they can be a bit considerate of your needs over the next few days/weeks. Take care.