Are these normal thoughts

LegacyUser

So I have been in full time work for some months now, I previously was in full time education. I worked part time throughout school and college and obviously I didn't mind some jobs,others I hated. Now that I'm working, I've come to realise I don't like my job. But I don't know if the way I feel is any different to how most people feel about their jobs.

I dread going in most days, I sometimes get these fleeting thoughts (and immediately regret and wish I hadn't had them) where I wish I could be diagnosed with some serious but curable disease where I didn't have to work for a year. Other times I resent the fact that people get x amount extra days/weeks parental leave per year, and I secretly hope to myself that someday I'll end up with someone rich enough that I can be a stay at home wife/mum (yeah not very mature I know, I was a workaholic in school/college so these thoughts are really out of character for me). I'm not serious about these thoughts, they just flutter into my mind every so often.

I just don't like my job, its not a bad job, the business I work for are quite fair and don't overwork the people in my department so its not a company culture type thing. I'm just wondering if there's thoughts are normal or are they out of the ordinary? Do most people resent working this much? I don't know if changing jobs or career paths would make me feel any better, or if this the norm, and what is expected in most jobs?

Old Perry

Everyday driving to work I think to myself well if the fella behind me just forgets to break I won't have to go to work today.... then he does break, doesn't hit me and I must endure another day in the corporate beasts belly .

But seriously, what you describe doesn't sound crazy but you should not dread going to work. At very least you should be able to see how it benefits you without it causing any major mental or physical stress.

I feel the same so can’t give any advice on this one. Hard to know is it just the job itself or just being a chronic over thinker (in my case but same may be for you) as in would I feel like this no matter what job I have and overthink it or is it really the job. Only way to know is to change jobs otherwise you will never know. Best of luck.

The_Honeybadger

I felt the same once when in a job that I hated. I changed jobs and moved to a different industry actually. Took a hit income wise but it was the best decision I ever made in the long run.

Hercule Poirot

Believe it or not your thoughts aren't entirely uncommon - I've had the whole "what if I contract something, nothing major, but it keeps me off work for a month or two?" conversations with myself not so long ago - my personal experience changed due to a company shake up and I was put with a different manager, the change in me was unbelievable and I haven't had THOSE THOUGHTS since.

So I'm afraid it's either wait for a change or enforce one yourself - it's the only way it's going to stop

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eeguy

Life is too short to do something you hate.

Fair enough, we'd all like a few months off work to relax and follow our passions, but if you actually have a problem with your job then it's best to see what you can do to improve your situation.

If work is monotonous then make outside work as fun as possible.
There's always some perks in job, so find them and exploit them. Might be discounts, work travel, volunteer groups or whatever. Just stuff to break the repetitiveness.

Work feels more worthwhile if you have goals.
See if there's opportunity for training or promotion and work towards it.

Airyfairy12

I love my job. I was sick 3 weeks ago, had to take time off and was genuinely feeling terrible about missing days. I think if youre feeling dread every morning then something has to change. Have you any savings? could you go travelling for a few months? or retrain in something else. Allot of masters and other postgrads are available to to people with a degree in any subject. You could do a PME in primary or secondary, you could do a Hdip in psychology, occupational therapy, the list is endless. You could also do a postgrad in something related to your job to help you get your foot into a different area.. like managment or something.

LegacyUser

I can relate, and I'm always surprised when people working fairly mundane jobs claim they wouldn't know what to do with themselves if they didn't have to work. Given the opportunity I would stop work immediately and focus on my passions. The professional world can be soul destroying if you are sensitive or creatively inclined, or have social anxieties.

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There's a difference between not loving your job and being in a job that you actively loathe, though. Most people are in the former camp, I'd wager.

OP, I spent two and a half years in a job I hated every minute of before I simply cracked one day and handed in my notice, with nothing else lined up, at the absolute height of the recession. My only regret to this day is that I didn't do it sooner.

However, you need to be very, very sure that it's this particular job you hate, and not just general "this is my first full-time job and I'm only now realising how hum-drum working life is" feelings, when you realise the days of long summer holidays and mid-term breaks and whatnot are behind you. The fact that you acknowledge that your job isn't actually a bad one and the company treat you well would kind of indicate to me that this may be the case. In which case I'd be loathe to advise you to quit and potentially start a pattern of bailing as soon as the going gets a little bit tough which you might find it very hard to break.

How long are you there, exactly?