Checked up on sons Snapchat

fifijk

I checked up on my sons Snapchat. He is aware I do this every foe weeks. Only way he gets access to it if I can have access.
Anyhow I see a girl in his class seriously putting pressure on him to shift another girl from his class. His girlfriend apparently!
We live in the country so apart from school they don't see each other.
Going by his messages back he is shying away from it and she tells him to stop with the drama.
He is an anxious child anyway. So I'm not happy with this.
I'm fully aware as to his age(12) 6th class whare all this begins. But he is a people pleaser which worries me.
I'm going to chat to him tomorrow about the pressures at this age. Any advice ye have is welcome.
Thanks in advance

Ulysses Gaze

fifijk wrote: »

I checked up on my sons Snapchat. He is aware I do this every foe weeks. Only way he gets access to it if I can have access.
Anyhow I see a girl in his class seriously putting pressure on him to shift another girl from his class. His girlfriend apparently!
We live in the country so apart from school they don't see each other.
Going by his messages back he is shying away from it and she tells him to stop with the drama.
He is an anxious child anyway. So I'm not happy with this.
I'm fully aware as to his age(12) 6th class whare all this begins. But he is a people pleaser which worries me.
I'm going to chat to him tomorrow about the pressures at this age. Any advice ye have is welcome.
Thanks in advance

My advice would be...don't post this in After Hours.

Ultimate Seduction

fifijk wrote: »

I checked up on my sons Snapchat. He is aware I do this every foe weeks. Only way he gets access to it if I can have access.
Anyhow I see a girl in his class seriously putting pressure on him to shift another girl from his class. His girlfriend apparently!
We live in the country so apart from school they don't see each other.
Going by his messages back he is shying away from it and she tells him to stop with the drama.
He is an anxious child anyway. So I'm not happy with this.
I'm fully aware as to his age(12) 6th class whare all this begins. But he is a people pleaser which worries me.
I'm going to chat to him tomorrow about the pressures at this age. Any advice ye have is welcome.
Thanks in advance

How are you reading messages on Snapchat? They delete themselves once sent or read I thought?

deco nate

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

How are you reading messages on Snapchat? They delete themselves once sent or read I thought?

That's my understanding of it. Never used it but I thought they deleted a minute or two after reading.

Pelvis

Tell your son to man the f&ck up.

pleas advice

Pelvis wrote: »

Tell your son to man the f&ck up.

A bold move, let's see how it plays out

drillyeye

Don't let children have internet access on their own time. Checking in on him every few weeks is not good enough.

Let a child be a child, not a screen addict (not saying your son is, but looking at these zombie children with phones everywhere is depressing)

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messy tessy

deco nate wrote: »

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

How are you reading messages on Snapchat? They delete themselves once sent or read I thought?

That's my understanding of it. Never used it but I thought they deleted a minute or two after reading.

Maybe OP means WhatsApp?

You can't see old messages on Snapchat.

dxhound2005

I agree with everything everyone has said so far. I am a people pleaser.

Noveight

I bet this thread was really started by a 12 year old lad who wants advice on how to pull another 12 year old.

The answer is Lynx Africa, of course.

jaxxx

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2+2=4, but what does that have to do with Tom Cruise refusing to come out of the closet?

You see what I did there? Cos I sure as hell ain't painting the dots!

OP, be honest with him and perhaps more importantly, be approachable so that he feels comfortable in being able to confide in you. That's my 2 cents.

Did I break any After Hours commandments btw??

Omackeral

Kissing girls at 12 years old is normal behavior. I’d buy him a beer if he was my boy and I found out he was getting the mooch.

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jaxxx wrote: »

2+2=4, but what does that have to do with Tom Cruise refusing to come out of the closet?

You see what I did there? Cos I sure as hell ain't painting the dots!

Let me try.

Tell me more about your love of ladyboys?

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Smell his fingers

jaxxx

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Let me try.

Tell me more about your love of ladyboys?

I would but... I'm not using a VPN so there's full possibility I could be tracked down and arrested for what I would divulge!

greencap

Thats his sucker account, for the olds.

In his alternate account he's smoking meth, slapping hoes, and train surfing.

dxhound2005

I am a VPN. Very Pleasant Neighbour.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

Life was simpler back in the day.

Ultimate Seduction

dxhound2005 wrote: »

I agree with everything everyone has said so far. I am a people pleaser.

I disagree with what you said and I find you offensive

JCX BXC

Snapchat messages don't delete themselves if you save them.....clearly an old crowd on here

B.A._Baracus

fifijk wrote: »

I checked up on my sons Snapchat. He is aware I do this every foe weeks. Only way he gets access to it if I can have access.
Anyhow I see a girl in his class seriously putting pressure on him to shift another girl from his class. His girlfriend apparently!
We live in the country so apart from school they don't see each other.
Going by his messages back he is shying away from it and she tells him to stop with the drama.
He is an anxious child anyway. So I'm not happy with this.
I'm fully aware as to his age(12) 6th class whare all this begins. But he is a people pleaser which worries me.
I'm going to chat to him tomorrow about the pressures at this age. Any advice ye have is welcome.
Thanks in advance

deco nate

JCX BXC wrote: »

Snapchat messages don't delete themselves if you save them.....clearly an old crowd on here

Aha! But the Snapchat warns the sender that you have saved it, does it not?

everlast75

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy wrote: »

Smell his fingers

Unfortunate username for that suggestion..

NinetyTwoTeam

there was no social media when i was 12, but that was the age around when the whole kissing stuff started.

i would not have wanted or listened to any input from my mother on the subject. none of it had any long term effect on my life really.

honestly you sound like you are a bitof a helicopter parent, 'he is an anxious child'. he can figure it out himself it's a 12 year old girl not Al Capone he's up against.

you have my sympathies tho, trying to raise a child in this electronic age and you tried to come up with a good compromise with letting him have it if you can check it but I think social media is really all or nothing... and if you google it you'll find that many of the guys who came up with it, including the inventor of the 'like' button on Facebook, have strictly forbidden their kids to use it because of its negative effects

NinetyTwoTeam

there was no social media when i was 12, but that was the age around when the whole kissing stuff started.

i would not have wanted or listened to any input from my mother on the subject. none of it had any long term effect on my life really.

honestly you sound like you are a bitof a helicopter parent, 'he is an anxious child'. he can figure it out himself it's a 12 year old girl not Al Capone he's up against.

you have my sympathies tho, trying to raise a child in this electronic age and you tried to come up with a good compromise with letting him have it if you can check it but I think social media is really all or nothing... and if you google it you'll find that many of the guys who came up with it, including the inventor of the 'like' button on Facebook, have strictly forbidden their kids to use it because of its negative effects