Would Irish guys consider dating an Australian girl?

K0KIRI

Hi everyone,

I am from Australia and I absolutely love Ireland, I'm a redhead so I felt extremely welcomed there (reds get a lot of flack in Australia). I also have Irish heritage, so Ireland definitely feels like home to me. 

I am wondering whether Irish guys would consider dating an Australian girl? I know long distance is difficult, but if the intention was to either move to Ireland or for them to move to Australia, I was hoping it could work out. 

I am wondering what the view of foreign girls are in Ireland? Are they generally seen as hit it and quit it, or do some men give them a shot if they really like them?

Thanks

Oink

Being Australian is not an issue. Being 10,000km away on the other hand... I could see that being an issue.

K0KIRI

Oink wrote: »

Being Australian is not an issue. Being 10,000km away on the other hand... I could see that being an issue.

Yes, I thought as much. But if I met the right man, I wouldn't mind moving over at all.

bizidea

Say there would be guys queuing up

LoMismo

How old are you? You probably have some fantasy idea of Ireland and Irish men in your head that aren’t real. I’ve lived in many countries and people tend to be the same everywhere. I would focus on your life where you are now instead of indulging this fantasy.
Also, there are literally 10s of 1000s of Irish people living in Australia. Stick your head in an Irish bar at closing time and come back to us.

bizidea

Ahh closing time in an irish bar thats definetly the spot to start you'll definitely get a bit of the irish charm there

dr.fuzzenstein

I definitely believe you

K0KIRI

LoMismo wrote: »

How old are you? You probably have some fantasy idea of Ireland and Irish men in your head that aren’t real. I’ve lived in many countries and people tend to be the same everywhere. I would focus on your life where you are now instead of indulging this fantasy.
Also, there are literally 10s of 1000s of Irish people living in Australia. Stick your head in an Irish bar at closing time and come back to us.

I'm 24. What type of fantasy do you think I have? :ermm: I just love the culture there, the people and Ireland in general, don't think that's a bad thing.

eviltwin

K0KIRI wrote: »

I'm 24. What type of fantasy do you think I have? :ermm: I just love the culture there, the people and Ireland in general, don't think that's a bad thing.

Have you ever been to Ireland? The culture isn't really representative of day to day life here......

Big Bag of Chips

If you love Ireland, then your plan should be to move here, regardless of whether or not you're dating someone from here. It would be very difficult to date someone from the other side of the world and get to know them enough to decide to uproot your life for them and relocate. That also puts a lot of pressure on the relationship.

Move here if you want it so much. THEN start dating.

K0KIRI

eviltwin wrote: »

K0KIRI wrote: »

I'm 24. What type of fantasy do you think I have? :ermm: I just love the culture there, the people and Ireland in general, don't think that's a bad thing.

Have you ever been to Ireland? The culture isn't really representative of day to day life here......

Yes I have

K0KIRI

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

If you love Ireland, then your plan should be to move here, regardless of whether or not you're dating someone from here. It would be very difficult to date someone from the other side of the world and get to know them enough to decide to uproot your life for them and relocate. That also puts a lot of pressure on the relationship.

Move here if you want it so much. THEN start dating.

Ok, good advice

Pohappiness

K0KIRI wrote: »

Ok, good advice

Bad advice from a mod, I’d say!! Lol Standards are slipping on this forum perhaps.

OP the world has gone such a weird world you could probably advertise that post and many guys would be interested, it’s a digital age after all. Anything is possible with a positive attitude:) start by getting here and the rest will follow. Disregard ignorant people 😀

K0KIRI

Pohappiness wrote: »

K0KIRI wrote: »

Ok, good advice

Bad advice from a mod, I’d say!! Lol Standards are slipping on this forum perhaps.

OP the world has gone such a weird world you could probably advertise that post and many guys would be interested, it’s a digital age after all. Anything is possible with a positive attitude:) start by getting here and the rest will follow. Disregard ignorant people 😀

Thank you

Grab All Association

If I wasn’t already in a relationship/engaged I would love to date a girl like Olympia Valance.

khaldrogo

K0KIRI wrote:

I'm 24. What type of fantasy do you think I have? :ermm: I just love the culture there, the people and Ireland in general, don't think that's a bad thing.

I found Melbourne to be very similar in culture to Dublin at least. Go to Melbourne and throw a potato due west and it will hit an Irish man......

K0KIRI

khaldrogo wrote: »

K0KIRI wrote:

I'm 24. What type of fantasy do you think I have? :ermm: I just love the culture there, the people and Ireland in general, don't think that's a bad thing.

I found Melbourne to be very similar in culture to Dublin at least. Go to Melbourne and throw a potato due west and it will hit an Irish man......

😂 Oh wow

Neyite

Pohappiness wrote: »

Bad advice from a mod, I’d say!! Lol Standards are slipping on this forum perhaps.

OP the world has gone such a weird world you could probably advertise that post and many guys would be interested, it’s a digital age after all. Anything is possible with a positive attitude:) start by getting here and the rest will follow. Disregard ignorant people ��

Mod:

Giving advice is welcome. Taking pot-shots at others, and being calling them ignorant is NOT welcome and will earn you a ban from the forum.

Permabear

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Ursus Horribilis

Permabear hit on some points that I was going to make. I've seen a few very sad threads on this forum from people who've fallen in love with someone who's from another country. Problem is, they love them but can't cope with the homesickness/being away from their family.
I think you could do with reading a couple of these threads (Mods:I hope it's OK to link to old threads)

Australian missing home I'm pretty sure the Australian lady in question later posted another thread and came to the decision that she had to end her marriage and go home

Torn between home and my girlfriend

The point is, the issue of moving permanently to another country is not something to be dismissed lightly. It can and does cause heartbreak if one of the people in the relationship isn't OK with moving away forever. And having seen what happens when it goes wrong, the ramifications are significant.

You sound like a tourist, I'm afraid. The red hair comment is like something straight out of Hollywood Cliches Volume 1. And nobody over here cares what your heritage is. You'll always be an Australian to us. I bet you came here on a holiday in the summertime when everywhere looks nice and you were treated well. You don't have the slightest idea what living in Ireland is really like and you really should do your research before you make any decisions. It might be worth taking a look at the Living Abroad forum here on boards, especially the coming home forum. The experiences of people who came home and left again are eye opening in some cases

Thespoofer

Of course they would OP why not? It's all about meeting the right person for you and take it from there.
I find the ladies accent from Australia quite sexy to be Frank, I'm sure others will too!

Anyway good luck on your search and hope it works out.

K0KIRI

Thespoofer wrote: »

Of course they would OP why not? It's all about meeting the right person for you and take it from there.
I find the ladies accent from Australia quite sexy to be Frank, I'm sure others will too!

Anyway good luck on your search and hope it works out.

Thank you

Wedgie

I would. I did. I married her ten years ago, and moved over to Oz almost six years ago.

K0KIRI

Wedgie wrote: »

I would.  I did. I married her ten years ago, and moved over to Oz almost six years ago.

That's so sweet

Dial Hard

Thespoofer wrote:

Of course they would OP why not?

They might date an Australian living in Ireland but one still living in Australia? I'm not so sure.

Ursus Horribilis

By the looks of things she is only interested in hearing the "happy ever after" stories and has no interest in the potential down sides.

K0KIRI

Ursus Horribilis wrote: »

By the looks of things she is only interested in hearing the "happy ever after" stories and has no interest in the potential down sides.

Oh no, I am perfectly aware that things may not work out, however I am trying to think positively and see the potential upsides.

JeffKenna

Would you not try to date one of the many irish guys over in Australia??

heretothere

I think your best bet is either to date an Irish lad in Australia or come here and work for a while. It's very easy for Australians to get a working holiday visa, or as you said you have Irish heritage if one of your grandparents was Irish you can get a 4 year visa I think. It would (in my opinion) be very difficult to develop a strong enough relationship purely on the internet to base such a big decision on. But maybe join a dating website and contact some Irish fellas to see what you think of them!

Irish fellas are a bit different to Aussies I found anyway. I mostly lived in rural Queensland though which is different to the cities I know. I found Aussie lads all wanted serious girlfriends and to even get married/ start families in their early/ mid 20s. Majority of Irish guys that age will not be looking for that sort of commitment. The average age of Irish men getting married is 35, just something to consider if that was in your plans.

Either way I think you should come move to Ireland! Your early 20s are a great time to get out there and travel the world, experience a difference culture. But one that isn't so different that you would struggle to 'fit in' I found it easy to get on in Australia anyway.

Irish people do get flack for having red hair too! Well my fiance does anyway

Chocolate fiend

I am surprised that as a redhead you felt more welcomed in Ireland, as a redhead myself with two red haired children (all living in Australia) I find that Australians are much more complimentary about red hair than any Irish person ever was.

woodchuck

What is your actual plan? To chat to Irish guys online and hope for a long distance relationship to blossom?

I've never done a long distance relationship, but from everything I've heard, they're HARD. And that's usually from people who have much less distance between them than you would have with someone in Ireland. Think of the time difference alone... it would be extremely difficult to organise a real time conversations. And it's not like could just pop over to each other the odd weekend. I think this would be a very foolish idea.

As others have said, if you like Irish guys so much, try meeting some that are already IN Australia!

K0KIRI wrote: »

I am from Australia and I absolutely love Ireland, I'm a redhead so I felt extremely welcomed there (reds get a lot of flack in Australia). I also have Irish heritage, so Ireland definitely feels like home to me.

This is very naïve :rolleyes: Hair colour should not factor into this decision (and redheads can get a hard time here too anyway!). Regardless of your Irish heritage, how much time have you actually spent in Ireland? What part of the country, what time of the year, working/travelling/studying? Because the reality of living and working here long-term is not all it's cracked up to be. There are serious issues in Ireland just like the rest of the world (housing shortage, ridiculous increase in rental prices, homelessness, substandard reproductive rights etc). I'm sorry to break it to you, but it's not the fairy tale you seem to have built up in your head.

heretothere

woodchuck wrote: »

I've never done a long distance relationship, but from everything I've heard, they're HARD. And that's usually from people who have much less distance between them than you would have with someone in Ireland. .

Yup! It's not easy and I didn't even do it for too long. I meet my Fiance in Australia and he moved home about 4 months before I did. Phone calls with him going to bed and me just getting up. At least we both only knew it was a very short time and we had a decent foundation.

GarIT

I’d be up for it with the right person can’t answer for anyone else

K0KIRI

JeffKenna wrote: »

Would you not try to date one of the many irish guys over in Australia??

I've not actually met many in Sydney at all.

Big Bag of Chips

Do you go out? Sydney is full of Irish people. What age are you?

heretothere

K0KIRI wrote: »

I've not actually met many in Sydney at all.

Go to the tea rooms in Bondi or the cock and bull was it? It'll be jam packed with Irish this weekend!
Scruffy Murphy's and PJ O Briens in the city centre. Everyone will be a bit Irish this weekend. I was in Sydney for 1 paddy's day it rained sooo much the parade got cancelled pure sickened.

K0KIRI

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Do you go out? Sydney is full of Irish people. What age are you?

Turning 24 in a few months. I don't go clubbing or partying, not really how I want to meet a partner. Even to the bars I've been to, mainly Aussies or Italian / French / Spanish.

woodchuck

heretothere wrote: »

Yup! It's not easy and I didn't even do it for too long. I meet my Fiance in Australia and he moved home about 4 months before I did. Phone calls with him going to bed and me just getting up. At least we both only knew it was a very short time and we had a decent foundation.

In addition to knowing it was short term, it sounds like you were already in an established relationship.

Personally I think it's pure madness to seek out a long-term relationship from the get go. Even if you date long distance for a significant length of time, you're never going to know if the relationship has a proper long term future until you're both living in the same country. I.e. someone needs to move country just to make a stab at a relationship. Most people wouldn't be insane enough to do that!

I don't want to be piling in with negatives but you should be aware of the use and abuse of alcohol in Irish society. A lot of socialising particularly at your age revolves around it.

Do you have any ties at home like work, family commitments etc.?
If not then why not come to work here for a while and see what the country is like?

Katgurl

I have to say I think this is a ludicrous idea chasing some fictitious Irish romantic fantasy.

Red hair doesn't make you Irish or give you any insight into life here.

If you want to spend time in Ireland find a way to do that. Don't come over tied to some bloke you've only spoken to online. Come here, make some friends, find a job, see what it's like. Why can't you be here single if it's the living in Ireland part you want?

Or if it's specifically an Irish guy then I echo the previous posters who said find one in Sydney; bondi beach or any Irish pub. The rugby is on tomorrow, they will all be mobbed.

You could even think about moving back to Ireland if you found an irish guy there... But I think coming purely dependent on a guy would be madness. You're 24, go out and have some experiences for yourself.

Fozzydog3

This doesn't answer your question OP but from your post it seems that you have this one size fits all approach to relationships.

For every Irish person comes a completely different viewpoint. We as a whole people don't have a particular opinion on entering relationships with Australian people, there maybe people who have brilliant experiences with your countryfolk and people who have a terrible impression too.

Also your impression of us may be a result of media, media that has been highly edited by the time it reaches you. Theres probably people in North Korea who are closer to your view of Irish people than people in Ireland.


So in short, a country thar someone is from will only give you a tiny impression of how your interaction with them will go. Dont look to other people for what to expect in your relationship because only you can determine what you want out of a relationship.

Chocolate fiend

Sydney is full of Irish, I am one of them (but not your target audience) I often go out of my way not to meet Irish people but we simply cannot be avoided here!

Neyite

If you've little interest in meeting an Irish man in your home country, then I don't see the point of you trying to strike up a long distance romance with one in the hopes it will spark into something substantial enough to move to the other side of the world for. And if you've no interest in pubs or partying, then you've just wiped out the biggest way that most Irish people meet their partners.

Sorry but I think you are on a hiding to nothing here and you seem to have an idealised notion of what an Irish man is. They are all different, and simply being a nationality you find sexy is no basis for a long lasting relationship.

If you really want to meet an Irish man, go out and get talking to some in your own town. Surely that's the easiest way?

LoMismo

Chocolate fiend wrote: »

Sydney is full of Irish, I am one of them (but not your target audience) I often go out of my way not to meet Irish people but we simply cannot be avoided here!

Why would you go out of your way not to meet Irish people? Irish snobs like you used to wreck my head when I lived abroad.

georgina toadbum

LoMismo wrote: »

Why would you go out of your way not to meet Irish people? Irish snobs like you used to wreck my head when I lived abroad.

Maybe he wants to get to know other nationalities more?

When I'm abroad I tend to stay away from Irish pubs or where Irish people gather. If I wanted to drink with a load of Irish people I'd stay in Ireland and go to my local.