Overweight and under-loved

LegacyUser

I'm a 37 year old woman and have not been i a relationship or dated for 7 years. I am at the point where I would meet a random stranger just for sex. Guys never approach me and because I am overweight I have little confidence. I feel like I habe a whole sexual and rather kinky side of me that is dying to come out but my weight holds me back. I am aroused a lot and really want to be able to enjoy sex with a man without feeling swlf conscious. Do men like women with weight? Not sure what exactly I am.looking for here but if anyone has advice?

ellie1

Dyingforsex wrote: »

I'm a 37 year old woman and have not been i a relationship or dated for 7 years. I am at the point where I would meet a random stranger just for sex. Guys never approach me and because I am overweight I have little confidence. I feel like I habe a whole sexual and rather kinky side of me that is dying to come out but my weight holds me back. I am aroused a lot and really want to be able to enjoy sex with a man without feeling swlf conscious. Do men like women with weight? Not sure what exactly I am.looking for here but if anyone has advice?[/quot

I am sure that there are men who like or prefer overweight women. However given thatvypur confidence is low and if that is in relation to your weight, I suggest you join the gym and lose weight. This will most certainly increase your confidence therefore giving you more opportunities to meet a man you fancy to shag.

Ursus Horribilis

I suppose you could try dating apps or websites. But really, you might be better off putting your energies into losing the weight. That'd make you more attractive, benefit your health and increase your self-confidence. Look into joining a slimming club (i.e. Slimming World WeightWatchers) and getting your weight down. Joining a gym has its benefits but the vast majority of weight loss comes from what you're eating.

Rachiee

Some men prefer or like women who are overweight but the biggest issue is likely your confidence. What ever you can do to build your confidence will help you meet someone.

Yellow pack crisps

If you don’t find yourself attractive or have self worth then nobody else will. Sure you could get laid and have sex but you won’t enjoy it because you will just put all the emphasis on yourself. I’m not saying lose weight etc etc. You need to love yourself and be kind to yourself. I don’t know how i know this but I always remember something Beyoncé said. She said she was on a beach and all these beautiful women were on it. But only one stood out, this large lady who walked by her and everyone, men and women were watching her. It was the way she walked, pure appeal and oozing sexiness. That girl loved herself and fu*k anyone else who didn’t.

morphman

Hi op.
Love yourself and be positive about yourself. I personally prefer ladies who are voluptuous and curvey.Thin ladies don't do it for me. You just need to find a guy who loves you no matter what.

charlietheminxx

I think you have to learn to at least accept yourself and be kind to yourself. I’m not a thin woman, I’ve been a size 22 and a size 12 and have spent most of my adult life hovering somewhere around the middle. I know it’s not easy to love yourself but you need to focus on more than just your weight, it’s not right that it’s holding you back in life.

Being comfortable with someone takes time for me but you can absolutely have a full and exciting sex life with someone who no doubt will think you’re a stunner. Learn to dress for your shape and work on your confidence and it will pay off in spades.

If you do decide to lose weight, then I wish you the best of luck with that. It’s not easy but it is doable! Personally I do feel better when I’m slimmer but I try to remember it’s not the be all and end all

You just have to make the best of what you’ve got.

The_Honeybadger

Some men certainly prefer women with curves but it sounds like you are not happy with your weight and it is effecting your life in a negative way.

I have never been very overweight but did have man boobs and pot belly for years, and a double chin that used to depress me every time I looked in the mirror, and it wasn’t my imagination as it was so prominent people would even comment on it. Fixing it was the best thing I ever did. I know people will tell you to accept yourself etc but honestly I don’t think I could ever have been fully happy if I hadn’t tackled it and I have more energy and confidence as a result. No need for an expensive gym membership either. Slimming world and a bit of walking or yoga or whatever you enjoy will work wonders. Breaking the bad habits that caused the weight gain in the first place is the big barrier. Diet is the key, exercise is quite overrated in terms of weight loss, but it’s good from a health and well-being POV.

Ball is in your court OP, best of luck whatever you do.

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