Unhappy with my life

LegacyUser

I am a single 39 year old guy very unhappy with a lot of things in my life. I moved to Waterford 10 years ago and have been working here ever since, I work shift 4 days on 4 days off and I find myself with absolutely nothing to do when I'm off work as I know very little people here. Play video games watch TV and surf the internet is basically what I spend my days doing and I have developed a bad habit of drinking at home most nights I'm off. I have looked at the website meet up and whilst its very good for Dublin and Cork its rubbish for Waterford. I have considered moving to Dublin or Cork but I have a very good paying job here in Waterford and I just know I wouldn't get anywhere the same salary in Dublin and when you couple that with the extra cost of living up there Id be looking at a very big hit but I suppose money isn't everything either. As a separate issue I'm not very motivated to go out there and be social at the moment anyway since I'm very overweight and have zero confidence in myself, by the way I'm quite knowledgable in nutrition and fitness so I know how to lose the weight its sticking to it I have a hard time with and breaking those bad habits
I'd appreciate any advice people can give

Bruisedego

Hi,

Sorry to hear you are feeling like that. It's very easy for me to say but what about going for a walk in a park or on a beach, Waterford must have lots along it's coast. You might not meet anybody but it gets you out, it can help improve your mood/minsdet and it's less time to consume food/drink.

I think it is much more acceptable for a man to go to a pub on his own. Maybe go early evening or a time where you can chat to staff and ask them if they know of places to do things (you are interested in)?

A lot of my friends are settled and it does get much harder to meet new people. Do you have work nights out or could you suggest something to do with work colleagues on a day off?

What do you like to do yourself? Are there facebook pages you can look up to find things you want to do? Most college's run evening courses too. I do think if you try do something you like rather than doing something for the sake of meeting people, it would help you more.

If the weight is an issue, there are slimming groups - a lot of men do attend them too. Maybe you could message the person running it and ask if there are many other makes who attend. Stay for the meetings and ask people for advice - they love to talk about their experiences, can be a conversation breaker.

The hardest part is taking the first step to make changes, I wish you all the best with it all.

Addle

Is that a separate issue? Are they not linked in a vicious circle?

One small step OP.

Just change one little thing in your routine to begin with. When you see the impact, other changes will follow.

Ursus Horribilis

As the saying goes "Wherever you go, there you are". If you upped sticks and moved to Dublin or Cork you'll find yourself facing the very same issues. With less money in your pocket. Even if you have friends in these cities, they're at the age where they're most likely going to be busy with family commitments etc. Moving to a new town on your own when you're not the most outgoing of people is tough. It's not something to do with Waterford per se.

If you're not happy with your weight, then perhaps that is a good place to start with making changes to your life. Try joining a slimming club (e.g. Slimming World, Weight Watchers). It'll get you out of the house, you'll start feeling better about yourself, you'll hopefully lose weight and maybe find a friendly face or two. Maybe try tackling this first before you start looking into other options?

DoozerT6

OP you have posted several of these threads over the past couple of years, all with the exact same issues.

What have you done with the PAGES of advice you have been given so far?

Wesser

I think your issue is shift work which is very bad for your mental health, your metabolism, your sleep patterns etc and your social oppurtunities etc. Can you look at a more 9 to 5 set up some where else?