Erectile Dysfunction for my 20's

hellothere2018

Firstly, I'm not looking to be judged or told you should have done this or should have done that.... or even why have you left it this long.

It's been a long, tough journey and unfortunately I think I may have done permanent damage. I want to share my story in the hopes that someone has travelled this road also.

I've suffered from Erectile Dysfunction/performance anxiety (along with social anxiety) for most of my 20's (I'm in my late 20's now).

I've gotten around this most of the time using Viagra (or generic viagra), aswell as Cialis that I buy online (stupid i know).

Even when I masturbate my erections are weak, with very low libido.

I went to my GP last week who did the usual bloods etc.

Blood test results show that everything is fine and even my testosterone is high(!!). The doc prescribed me Viagra and wants me to build my confidence back up but I have been taking this for so long now.

Since I recently started dating someone new I've started to obsess over this again (which I know isn't good), so much so my anxiety is spiralling out of control and affecting all aspects of my life. I'm seeing a counsellor too.

Would definitely love to hear how things are going for guys, any tips or advice etc, and if there is light at the end of the tunnel. I don't want to have to take viagra for the rest of my life..

La Haine

Oh dear OP!

This read exactly like I wrote it!

I was the EXACT same from my mid-20’s and, like you; I self medicated on viagra etc. for years - up until I hit 40 (I’m 45 now).

At 40 I went to the doc and, again like you, everything came back fine - testosterone, blood etc. Doc prescribed viagra. He also suggested that things would get better for me if I gave up smoking.

So, after 20 years of smoking 20 a day or more I gave them up. Now, I also gave up drinking around this time too.

Took about 6 - 9 months and, gradually, natural ‘wood’ came back.
And as time went on all functions seemed to be restored. )

Good luck!

OP, I had similar issues in my 20's. I stopped smoking, drugs, alcohol and exercised often enough without any real improvement. I also went to the doctors about it but my body produces excessive adrenaline so some options given were ill-advised.

In any case, most of my improvement actually came from counseling, meditation, and self-hypnosis. I'm not a big fan of psychology driven "science" but I would seriously suggest examining your past experiences and emotional state. I found I was carrying a lot of non-sexual baggage, although relating to dating and social performance with women in general. While I could communicate fine, there was a sense of stress always in the back of my head. The counseling helped me to identify areas, to cry to release the pent-up emotions, and the self-hypnosis helped to inspire my affirmations with belief. Took a while to do, but I'm a firm believer now in the connection between your mental/emotional state and the physical self. I'm not a fan of relying on medicine because the docs themselves don't know the side-effects or long-term effects of their usage.

Haven't needed any external stimulation for years now(i'm in my early 40s now). Would highly recommend going to a counseller first, perhaps a few sessions of getting hypnotised from an experienced professional, and starting meditation with affirmations.

Lastly, I also dabbled in Tantric sex for a while and saw some improvement even before I started the mind/emotional healing. Anticipation can be a powerful driver...

Sleeper12

Meds like viagra are fine but I wonder if you would be better off seeing a psychologist in the long run.

Nothing wrong with taking the viagra in the meantime.