Reuniting with an old flame, thoughts?

lil28

3 years ago I dated a guy for 3 months. Everything was great, we had lovely dates and I was really falling for him. He met my family at my going away party.
I moved away after 3 months of dating. This had been planned all along and I never ever expected to find someone before I left. He knew I was going away but things were really good and we just went with it at the time. We kept in contact for about another 6 months. After 6 months we had a conversation to end all contact as we were both feeling the effects of long distance and I didn't know when I would be moving back home. We had tried our best but the relationship was so young when I moved away that talking over the phone wasn't enough for either of us. So we broke contact to protect ourselves and to allow ourselves to move on. It was a pretty mature conversation and 100% the right decision at the time. I'm not questioning any of that part of the situation.

I've been back home for over a year now and dated a couple of people on and off but nothing serious. I don't know why this has popped into my head recently but I've been thinking about him and wondering if it's worth contacting him again. I wouldn't have any high expectations, it's more that I think there was potential for something more that we never got to explore due to me moving away.

Has anyone ever had this experience and could give their two cents on this?
I'm a very logical person and don't expect some fairytale ending or anything, but I do think it's possibly something to go for and see what happens.
If anyone has any advice on how to even go about this or whether I should leave it be, I'd appreciate it. I still have his phone number so all it would take would be a whatsapp message. Modern technology!

Tokyo

If everything was amicable when you left, I don't see why not. A message to say that you are back home, if they'd like to catch up for a friendly drink sometime wouldn't be out of order.

Dial Hard

Go for it. What have you got to lose? He might be in a relationship, he might have no interest, but if you don't ask you'll never know!

MartyMcFly84

Give it a shot, you have nothing left to loose. The circumstances were not right the first time, they might be this time. If things dont work out you loose nothing from reaching out.

Kidchameleon

Why not? Go girl

runningbuddy

Absolutely nothing to lose. Go for it !

Katgurl

Yeah I agree with the other posters. Why not? Is there anyway to find out if he is currently single first though?

lil28

Katgurl wrote: »

Yeah I agree with the other posters. Why not? Is there anyway to find out if he is currently single first though?

I think he is, although it is difficult to know for sure. I guess the only way to go is to reach out and see what happens!

Thanks for all your encouragement!