Harassment

LegacyUser

I've been getting harassed for a number of years from an estranged family member. Its been very intense and heavy at times with so much hatred and vitriol. I know a reaction would likely fuel more of it and I haven't responded.

This has to stop. The Gardai are aware of the harassment already and a warning was issued but it still continued. The last thing I want now is to make a statement and haul this person in front of a judge but it has to stop. What are my options here?

Jenneke87

Some people have to learn the hard way so hauling this person in front of a judge (if nothing else works) could be an option. You could go on ignoring it but going by your post it sounds like this is no longer an option for you. Maybe they could issue another warning and if that doesn't help, then you take this person to court?

MissShihTzu

Can you get some kind of barring/restraining order?

wiggle16

Well they've been warned by the Gardaí, you have clearly attempted to make it stop.... to be honest, if this person has been behaving this way for this long then bringing them to court might be the only thing that will make them listen.

You are completely right not to respond, fair play to you, and it's usually enough to ignore until the person gets bored. But clearly this person thinks that they can behave this way with no consequences and that you will just take it.

I would get advice from the Gardaí/a solicitor before doing anything, but I don't know if I'd ask for another warning - this person has already been warned and didn't take it on board. Blindside them with a summons to court out of the blue and it might knock some sense into them, if you're really lucky you may not have to bring them to court at all.

Hope it stops soon OP x

LegacyUser

OP here, Thank you for the replies. I don't know anything about barring/restraining orders.

There's been many times when I felt like responding and saying 'will you please just f**k off, move on with your life etc' but I always refrained because responding to hostility only just fuels more of it. The person is only just craving attention from the family she hates and wants nothing more to do with. Other family has got abuse too but nothing on the same level as to what I got. The harassment feels like a life sentence just for being alive. Its coming from someone who has a very dark and black mind and a dark soul by the looks of things.

I have an appointment made with a solicitor and I'll be looking for advice of him before I take it further. I'll have to look at all options and hopefully the solicitor will fill me in with more information as to what my options are. Originally I was apprehensive about going the full route of making a formal complaint to the Gardai, and getting the ball rolling on an arrest, investigation, DPP prosecution (I've got so much a prosecution from the DPP is highly likely). At this stage I'm sick and tired of the abuse and harassment. I've got 1000s of abusive messages and emails and fake facebook profiles. The whole entire works including accusations. Down right disgusting and vile and crude and just so so so much hatred. Including in the campaign of harassment are many naked pictures of her demanding to know what I am jealous of her. We all got a good laugh out from that one. At this stage it has to stop.

Neyite

Mod:

OP and the person who is anon posting purporting to be the other party.
Go and sort this in real life please. Mediation, counselling or you know, just agree to never see or contact each other again...

I'm locking this because I won't be approving any more posts for you to continue your feud online to get digs in.