Help! Missed Deadline for Registration to Marry!

juicyduckie

So as it says above, through a misunderstanding we have missed our deadline for registration to marry - we were informed today that we should have had our appointment way back at the beginning of December for the three months notice!

Has anyone ever successfully given less than three months notice to the HSE?
Or will we not be able to get married now?

Klinkhammer

We had to do it at short notice and going abroad was our only option really.

AGC

Not sure when you’re getting married but in all likelihood get it sorted this week you’ll be fine

Stheno

I missed it due to being abroad with work

You can go to family court and explain why you missed it to the judge and they may grant an exception

juicyduckie

Sorry, should have said - getting married on 10th March!
Are we completely f**ked?

juicyduckie

Okay so family court - did it cost more to go through the court? I'm assuming yes!

Stheno

juicyduckie wrote: »

Okay so family court - did it cost more to go through the court? I'm assuming yes!

No I don't think there was a charge

GingerLily

Stheno wrote: »

No I don't think there was a charge

Its actually cheaper then the HSE way!

Addle

I hope the court doesn't allow people bend the rules for no good reason.

jules86

juicyduckie wrote: »

So as it says above, through a misunderstanding we have missed our deadline for registration to marry - we were informed today that we should have had our appointment way back at the beginning of December for the three months notice!

Has anyone ever successfully given less than three months notice to the HSE?
Or will we not be able to get married now?

Are you getting married in church? You could still go ahead have your ceremony etc you just won't be legally married. Head to registry office then in 3 months and do the legal bit?

Mervyn Skidmore

Ring your local Circuit Court office tomorrow and explain the situation. You will need to fill out an application form, may require an affidavit as to why you need the exemption, and may need a letter from the priest if getting married in a church. You'll then have to go before the Co. Reg and he/she will make the order. Then head back to the registry office with a copy of the order and you're sorted. It shouldn't be a whole lot of extra hassle.

juicyduckie

Thank you all for your help, it's very much appreciated.
We are getting married in a church but the priest indicated they would most likely not allow us to go ahead without the licence.

Will call the HSE and the Circuit Court tomorrow morning and hope for the best!

GingerLily

Addle wrote: »

I hope the court doesn't allow people bend the rules for no good reason.

What is a good reason? Innocently missing the deadline?

Addle

How someone can manage to arrange to meet a priest but innocently miss an important civic meeting, upon which the whole event depends, is beyond me.

The court route is meant for marriages in which there wasn't time for the wait. That is not the case in this instance.

GingerLily

Addle wrote: »

How someone can manage to arrange to meet a priest but innocently miss an important civic meeting, upon which the whole event depends, is beyond me.

The court route is meant for marriages in which there wasn't time for the wait. That is not the case in this instance.

My friends did, they went to a court to sort it out, it all worked out. They're happily married now a few years.

I don't understand your hardline attitude on this, not everyone is aware of the 3 month rule, if you ask most people in their 20s I reckon the also wouldn't know about it....

Are you always un-empathetic?

juicyduckie

Addle wrote: »

How someone can manage to arrange to meet a priest but innocently miss an important civic meeting, upon which the whole event depends, is beyond me.

The court route is meant for marriages in which there wasn't time for the wait. That is not the case in this instance.

And beyond you it shall remain.
There's no need for rudeness to a stranger on the internet.

Addle

I just don't like to see an abuse of the system.

mugsymugsy

Abuse of the system cop on. OP as others have given the info best of luck with it.

It's something that nearly caught myself out and I know of others. I now tell anyone who is engaged about it so they don't get caught out.

Best of luck and hope the rest of your wedding goes more smoothly!

Bubosw

My hubbie and I went to the family court, there was no issues and the Judge wished us well. No charge eitherðŸ‘ðŸ»

juicyduckie

Addle - myself and my fiancé are the last people on earth who would ever 'abuse the system' - we are mortified and simply trying to get a picture of where we stand as we can't contact the HSE/Courts until tomorrow morning.

Mugsy thank you for your well wishes, fingers crossed the court understands!

Bubosw you have given us hope, thank you.

Mrs OBumble

juicyduckie wrote: »

And beyond you it shall remain.
There's no need for rudeness to a stranger on the internet.

The poster is not being rude. They are being honest.

If someone isn't able to manage meeting the legal deadlines (without good reason), I would be worried about whether they are mature enough to enter into a contract as serious as marriage.

Agree some people don't know what the deadline is before they start planning a wedding ceremony. But it's not hard to find out - and most would realise that it's the first thing they should be checking.

OP good luck with either meeting a sympathetic judge, or rescheduling. The latter isn't the end of the world.

GingerLily

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

The poster is not being rude. They are being honest.

If someone isn't able to manage meeting the legal deadlines (without good reason), I would be worried about whether they are mature enough to enter into a contract as serious as marriage.

Don't mind posters like this OP..... Most posters on the marriage forum on Boards are much more reasonable

The Bishop Basher

We managed to get married within 3 weeks of deiciding to.

Quick trip to the court and we had a licence and they waive the HSE fee which is an added bonus.

You’ll be fine OP.

Best of luck with it all.

Faith

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

The poster is not being rude. They are being honest.

If someone isn't able to manage meeting the legal deadlines (without good reason), I would be worried about whether they are mature enough to enter into a contract as serious as marriage.

An innocent mistake does not mean someone isn’t “mature enough to enter into a contract as serious as marriage” :rolleyes: and making such a claim is nothing more than an attempt to shame a person for being human.