Lost my memory in a party

Lastsoulbender

It is the second time that I had this. Basically at my bestfriends birthday party I drank a bit too much and I do remember everything except one part. My ex boyfriend was there too and he fell asleep in the couch. I was just watching him sleep but at the time I was so drunk and I was crying. I couldn't even move. I think I fell asleep lying on the floor. When I woke up I was in a bed alone so I panicked because I couldn't remeber moving to another place.(still I can't remember a single thing) I asked to all my friends if they carried me to the bedroom but they all said no. There is a possibility that my ex saw me lying and carried me to the bedroom but I am not sure because I don't think he would do that. Is it possible for me to wake up and go to the bedroom which is kinda far away from the place I was at that moment. I basically had a blackout but I can't figure out who carried me or I went there by myself. If you have any idea that might help please write.

C3PO

How you got into the bed is kind of immaterial! I would be more concerned that you are drinking yourself into a blackout. You may not be in such a benign environment the next time it happens!

charlietheminxx

Yeah OP this is a wake up call. That situation could have been a lot worse and you might have come to serious harm. If you don’t know what you were doing, you could have left with strangers or walked into traffic or any number of things. I’m not being judgemental, I drank far too much when I was younger but unfortunately it had some awful consequences for me. You’ve had an incident where you know you’ve drank way too much and you need to avoid this happening again. Being a bit pissed and merry is fun, not being in control of yourself at all is not.

My advice would be to learn your limits, eat a big meal before you start drinking and bring a certain amount of drink with you to a party that you know won’t get you blackout drunk and stick to that.

Bambi985

I think the lesson here is stop drinking to the point of blackout, because that's a very worrying and dangerous place to be. You're lucky you were in the safety of your best friend's house and not stumbling out of a pub or club in town where you could have fallen into the path of any number of unsavoury characters. It's not funny or cool OP, it's a really dangerous and physically damaging thing to do to your body and you won't get away with it scot-free for too long.

What you're dealing with now is some serious FEAR the morning after, hardly an uncommon phenomenon. You'll probably never know how you got from the floor to the bedroom of your friend's house and it matters not a jot, but you can't see that yet because the anxiety and paranoia is at full blast and will stay that way for a day or two. It sounds like your ex was in no state to help you out so I wouldn't bank on it being him, but realistically you'll probably not get any answers with this one.

Remember this horrible, gut-wrenching, head-melting feeling the next time you're out and how it's so incredibly not worth it to lose bodily control and black-out to the point of unsafety the next time you have a night out.

mickdw

You could easily have moved yourself without remembering. After some sleep, perhaps you went looking for toilet and then hit the first bed you found,

meeeeh

Are you hoping that your ex was the one who picked you up and brought you to hour room? I think that is very unlikely, I'm guessing he was as drunk as you were. It's more likely someone woke you up and told you to go to bed, maybe even helped you and they don't remember it or you woke up by yourself and staggered to bed.

Lastsoulbender

At that time everyone was okay and I was still drinking whiskey. I asked all my friends if they carried me or helped me but they all said no. Except one of my friends said after my ex woke up and went downstairs she decided to check me and she couldn't find me. Then after looking a while she found me in a bedroom we haven't been before.Btw my ex wasn't drunk most of the time but I might trying to comfort myself too.

Big Bag of Chips

Why does it matter how you got to the bed? Do you think/hope your ex brought you to bed, and that maybe something happened?

You really are focusing on the wrong thing here. Twice you have drank to the point of blackout, but that doesn't seem to be a problem for you. Now after the event you are depending on people who were also drunk (you have no idea how drunk anyone else was, as you were too drunk yourself) to piece it together for you. How about you promise yourself to not get into that state again.

And if you're hoping for a reconciliation with your ex why not talk to him? Sober.

Peatys

Lay off the whiskey op.

Tenigate

Lastsoulbender wrote: »

. Is it possible for me to wake up and go to the bedroom which is kinda far away from the place I was at that moment. I basically had a blackout but I can't figure out who carried me or I went there by myself.

It is 100% possible you walked there yourself.

A blackout simply means you didn't commit events to your longterm memory. Sure, you were very drunk, but still capable of performing tasks, making decisions, reasoning... all of which will be impaired. Maybe you woke up, were uncomfortable, staggered to the first bed you found, and fell asleep.

It should be a wake-up call. You can't handle your alcohol. Lay off it. If you had sex in your drunken state this could easily be another "was I raped" thread.

Xterminator

Hi Op

i agree you are focusing in on the wrong detail and not looking at the big picture.

If you continue to drink yourself into a state where you are very vulnerable; not in control of yourself and cannot recall the nights events; something bad will happen to you.

did you ex put you in bed? internet strangers don't know. i am guessing you don't have a great relationship with the ex, or you dont trust them and thats why you cannot just ask them?

Ursus Horribilis

Tenigate wrote: »

It should be a wake-up call. You can't handle your alcohol. Lay off it. If you had sex in your drunken state this could easily be another "was I raped" thread.

^^This

When any of us goes out drinking, we owe it to ourselves to ensure we don't end up in situations like this. What you've described here isn't simply someone who had too much to drink. You had too much to drink and then some. When someone's crying, not able to move and can't remember a thing, that's serious. You're very lucky that you were in a safe environment when it happened. I've a friend who went off the rails for a while in her 20s; after a blackout she woke up in a field...

You also should be thanking your lucky stars you didn't choke on your own vomit or suffered alcoholic poisoning. In future, keep an eye on what you're drinking and don't be afraid to say stop when you have had enough. And if you can't stop drinking once you start, you may need to consider quitting drinking altogether.