Behavior towards my ex girlfriend who cheated and lied, did I act good?

DoodleBob

So I'm 19 year old guy and I was in a relationship with a cute girl, she's 17. After a month she dumps me over text. She was even planning for us to go to the gym together.
2 weeks later I found out out that she has cheated on me and got in a relationship with that guy (17).

I gave her a call so she would know that I know what she has done (in calm voice). Told her that she didn't have to lie and that we could just talk and it would be fine.

3 months later she is still in relationship with that guy.

I started working out in the gym on regular basis. She goes to the same gym. I know that, we were supposed to go there together. One day, while going to the changing rooms I notice her working out. She immediately notices me, looks at me 2-3 times and moves her look away. I did look at her too, but there was no communication.

A week later, after the lifting session, I'm going with my personal trainer to do some crunches and stretching. It's her, 5 m away (like 15 feet). I immediately striked a funny conversation with my trainer. Didn't give her even a look. Passed by her a few times, didn't even say hello to her. Feeling so proud of myself, not giving a **** about someone who betrayed my trust.

I didn't post sad or depressing stuff on instagram, just me being happy and enjoying life.

Did I act good? How should I behave further on?

Also: I lost 8 Kg (17,6 pounds) since we broke up and I do look better. She must have noticed that (all my college friends noticed the positive change in my appearance though).
I was really good with her mom, and if I see her mom somewhere in the town, I guess I should be nice to her, and that I shouldn't mention my ex.

ted1

Congratulations on the weight loss, just forget about.

Contessa Raven

I don't understand. Are you hoping to get back with her? You seem pretty preoccupied with what she thinks. If she wanted to get back with you she would have tried to by now. The fact she's still with this other fella means she's happy with him.

As for her looking at you and then away again, that's pretty normal. Could mean anything. Maybe she's a bit awkward that you go to the same gym. Maybe she noticed your new look. Maybe she saw someone familiar out of the corner of her eye and had to do a double take to check.

I would say continue to move on with your life. Don't interact with her. There's no need. If you happen to cross paths and say hello, cool. Otherwise I would keep my distance. It's time to forget about her and move on.

B.A._Baracus

Good on you for losing the weight. But forget about her.
As time goes by you will realize just how small a blip on the radar she is compared to the rest of your life. That takes time and more life experience tho.

GingerLily

Please please forget about her - she's not worth even thinking about! You deserve someone who treats you right and she is obviously a head wrecker.

Congratulations on losing the weight - you should be very proud of yourself! Keep up the good work!!

LegacyUser

I know you're 19 and have a fair bit of growing to do, but even allowing for age you're much too internally intense about a 1 month relationship that ended 3 months ago.

Mr. Incognito

Hello there.

I'm 35 and I am so very very glad I dont have to deal with this crap any more.

People are immature at that age. You are, she certainly is at 17. No relationship around this age will last more than a few months with a few exceptions.

The best advice I could give you is to concentrate on yourself and being the best person that YOU can be. In the age of social media its very easy to say something in the moment and be silly so delete her from your life and move on.

The best revenge is to have a happy life. Soon enough you will meet someone who you like and she will be forgotten.

justfillmein

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Hello there.

I'm 35 and I am so very very glad I dont have to deal with this crap any more.

People are immature at that age.

people at your/our age can be immature too. so it never ends;)

Jurgen Klopp

You are doing perfectly amigo by ignoring her after her carry on. Just forget about her and nothing wrong if ya don't engage with her if she tries to start talking to at the gym.

It's ok to acknowledge her if she says hello just say "Kate how's it going" but keep walking

If shes one of those people that will try to work out near you and get a convo going you can just respond with some matter of fact sentences and it will give her the message you've no interest in wasting time talking to her, why would you.

For instance she sides up to you "Bob your putting us all to shame with your workout"

"Ah I wouldn't say that now"

"Do you come here many days?"

"Ah once or twice a week"

"My mams birthday was the other day, she missed ya at the party"

"Oh ya pity"

That sort of thing will get across the message