Embarrassing drunken incident

elvis83

Hey folks. Over Christmas, I got extremely drunk one night, got a lift home with the wife's brother and sister and talked them into coming in for a drink.

My mind is a blank after this point. I'm pretty sure though I might have said something extremely inappropriate. I've recently found myself being attracted to the wife's sister, and I'm terrified I might have said something.

The problem is I can't remember. I think they've been acting weird around me since, but not sure if it's just paranoia.

What the hell do I do? I obviously love my wife, we have two young kids that have obviously affected our sex life, and maybe that's why this crush has developed but it's nothing I would ever act on.

Deeply depressed and worried and unsure how to proceed. Do I ask them outright what happened?

LegacyUser

For a start, I’m sceptical when I hear people recounting stories like this, as if you want your alcoholic amnesia to excuse your behaviour.

Be a man and say something to the affected people.

elvis83

I don't think I'm looking to excuse my behaviour. I genuinely don't remember if it happened.

I guess I'm just horrified at myself if it's true, and terrified of the potential repercussions on my marriage.

You're right though, I think I definitely need to pluck up the courage and talk.

Thanks for the reply

Tenigate

Op, I don't agree with the anonymous comment by BananaRep12.

I used to go out with friends, have a feed of pints, and the next day all these weird thoughts would come into my head .. like maybe i insulted someone or behaved inappropriately or dragged the mood down. It would eat away at me until i phoned one who'd put my mind at ease.

I guess i was just a little neurotic or something.

I'd put it out of my head if i were you. If something was said you'll know soon enough. In future be careful with how much you drink. And get the notions out of your head too. Hope it blows over for you.

jk23

Bananarep or whatever he called himself has deleted his account so although I think he/she was a troll. There was a tiny bit of substance in that post though. Either call/text or talk in person to the couple. Say you feel extremely embarrassed about the last night and you were very intoxicated. Make your apologies and leave it up to them then you can’t do much more...

Tokyo

elvis83 wrote: »

Deeply depressed and worried and unsure how to proceed. Do I ask them outright what happened?

I'd suggest not.

At this point you don't know what actually happened (or didn't happen), and are basing your assumptions solely on your own paranoia. Saying something specific, based on conjecture alone might only make for a more awkward situation.

If you really do feel the need to say something, then I'd so with a very general "apologies for getting so drunk the last night when I was out with you guys - I obviously had far too much to drink" and leave it at that.

elvis83

mike_ie wrote: »

I'd suggest not.

At this point you don't know what actually happened (or didn't happen), and are basing your assumptions solely on your own paranoia. Saying something specific, based on conjecture alone might only make for a more awkward situation.

If you really do feel the need to say something, then I'd so with a very general "apologies for getting so drunk the last night when I was out with you guys - I obviously had far too much to drink" and leave it at that.

That sounds like good advice, I think I'll go with that. Cheers!

skallywag

Tenigate wrote: »

I used to go out with friends, have a feed of pints, and the next day all these weird thoughts would come into my head .. like maybe i insulted someone or behaved inappropriately or dragged the mood down. It would eat away at me until i phoned one who'd put my mind at ease.

I guess i was just a little neurotic or something.

Everyone I know gets such feelings of anxiety the next day after going too heavy on the sauce. A common phenomenon known as The Fear.

leggo

Let it be a lesson. You have control over whether you get this drunk or not and the affects you have to live with the next day (which you are still 100% responsible for). I had a few incidents when I was younger like this and know that the worst I’ll ever do is say something dumb or offensive, so I’ll limit what I drink depending on if I’m around certain friends in my inner circle who I completely trust and will stay away from certain drinks altogether that can hit me harder than others.