Just don’t get it ???

Confused2828

Long story short my bf and I broke up 6 moths ago I gave him another chance after he said he wanted to work things out, A family member of mine has been unwell and I’m up the wall with that right now he’s been fine, very supportive, great over the Christmas then goes to a house party on Stephens night and I haven t heard a thing from him it’s so strange and I’ve all sorts of scenarios going through my head at the min which it’s extra stress I don’t need right now, am I over reacting we re together over five years and this isn’t normal

wirelessdude01

Have you tried to contact him? If you use WhatsApp and/or Facebook then you can see if he has been online.

Confused2828

I rang him ten times the last two days and text twice it probably sounds a lot but we re together so long he would contact me this way if I didn’t answer just to see was I ok, he doesn’t have Facebook since I’ve known him and he hasn’t been online on messaging apps it’s just mad he knows I have been staying in the hospital with a relative and going through so much so it’s mind boggling

SATSUMA

Ask his family?

Confused2828

rang his Mam and no answer 😳

mojesius

Maybe he left his phone at the party. Would he know your number without his phone?

Ursus Horribilis

Does he have any friends you could get in contact with and check in on him?

Confused2828

he would definitely know my number, and all his family have it too, we re together a long time he would usually contact me he didn’t go to work either yesterday I know this because someone I know works with him

Ursus Horribilis

So is there anyone in that circle you know well enough to discreetly check in on him and let you know that he's OK?

The other option, I hate to say it, is that he's ghosting you. The length of time you're together means nothing. I've a friend in his forties whose 6 year long relationship seems to be going off the tracks. Three break-ups/reconciliations this year and all have involved his girlfriend going to ground and ignoring him.

Confused2828

Was thinking of contacting his sister to see if he’s ok , but I reckon if there was something wrong with him that was serious they would have contacted me I can’t get my head around it at all

Ursus Horribilis

Just ask. At least then you'll know if he's OK.

wirelessdude01

Just bite the bullet and contact her.

Ursus Horribilis

I'm not being smart but I'm not sure how anybody on this forum can give you any answers. All we can do is guess and that's not going to be of any use to you at all. Give the sister a call and see what she has to say.

Ghekko

Of course you should call the sister. Explain that you are wondering if he's ok. If he is then deal with him later when you're not dealing with a sick relative. That relative is your priority for now but you do need to know that your boyfriend is ok.