Christmas present for girlfriend

Fitz*

So it's my first Christmas with my girlfriend. We are both in our late 20s. Being our first Christmas together, I have to try impress her somewhat.

She suggested a setting a limit, which is grand - only makes things fair. Obviously being the gentleman that I am, I was of courser going to go over this limit a bit. Just try and win over some nice points So she has picked out some necessary things she needs which I have purchased (hopefully arriving before Christmas!) and actually fit perfectly within budget.

I have a couple of small things sourced which would be nice 'stocking filler' type presents just for a few extra smiles and an actual surprise, as she knows about the 'big' present. I am a bit of a messer, and I think she enjoys that. But I am thinking of buying her a goldfish. Something so stupid, but I think would be funny? And not too much of a hinderance that say a kitten, hamster or other small pet would be.

tThoughts?

OnDraught

FitzShane wrote: »

But I am thinking of buying her a goldfish. Something so stupid, but I think would be funny? And not too much of a hinderance that say a kitten, hamster or other small pet would be.

tThoughts?

You need to have the tank set up, cycled and tested at least two weeks in advance. You're also looking at a 240 litre tank by the time the fish reaches its adult size in 15 odd years.

eviltwin

Don't buy her a goldfish unless she really wants one. While it's a low maintenance pet, she will still need to change the water and look after the tank. It's not a massive amount of work but it's a pain if you didn't sign up for it. Maybe a non living gift instead?

Tenigate

Hairdryer and a dildo

exaisle

No goldfish.

naughtysmurf

Surely a reasonable size bowl & some water will be fine?

OnDraught

naughtysmurf wrote: »

Surely a reasonable size bowl & some water will be fine?

Absolutely not. Pure cruelty.

eviltwin

naughtysmurf wrote: »

Surely a reasonable size bowl & some water will be fine?

Eh, no. Water gets dirty very quickly, they need a proper filtration and regular cleaning as well as some stimulation.

Don't give pets as presents, ever. No matter how small.

I don't get how a goldfish is meant to be funny. Nothing funny about cleaning a tank that a lonely fish lives in.

James Bond Junior

I bought my other half a secrid wallet. I have one and love it and they do them in pink and rose god and all sorts of girly colours. Handy for holding cash and cards when they are out or have a small hangbag.

Alkers

Read up on goldfish care, there's a lot more to it than sticking one in a bowl. If kept correctly, they'll live 30 years!

Fitz*

No to a goldfish then!

woodchuck

FitzShane wrote: »

No to a goldfish then!

Definitely. Never get someone a pet as a present!! And fish are a lot more work than you'd think.

Why do you feel the need to buy her so much stuff though? You're talking about some necessary things, some stocking fillers, a big present and a surprise. Sounds like you've gotten her more than enough already so why are you trying to think of more presents?

It's already too much imho, especially as you're going over the agreed limit. If anything you're risking making her feel bad when she doesn't have the same volume of presents for you!

Ash.J.Williams

FitzShane wrote: »

So it's my first Christmas with my girlfriend. We are both in our late 20s. Being our first Christmas together, I have to try impress her somewhat.

She suggested a setting a limit, which is grand - only makes things fair. Obviously being the gentleman that I am, I was of courser going to go over this limit a bit. Just try and win over some nice points So she has picked out some necessary things she needs which I have purchased (hopefully arriving before Christmas!) and actually fit perfectly within budget.

I have a couple of small things sourced which would be nice 'stocking filler' type presents just for a few extra smiles and an actual surprise, as she knows about the 'big' present. I am a bit of a messer, and I think she enjoys that. But I am thinking of buying her a goldfish. Something so stupid, but I think would be funny? And not too much of a hinderance that say a kitten, hamster or other small pet would be.

tThoughts?

Don't

Balmed Out

When in a similar situation I made my then girlfriend now wife a hamper of small items individually gift wrapped. Her favorite sweets, chewing gum, cheaper cosmetics, sauces, spices, costume jewelry etc etc.

GingerLily

FitzShane wrote: »

She suggested a setting a limit, which is grand - only makes things fair.

LOL - I read "she suggested a limit, which is A GRAND" - had me very worried!!

Don't give her a pet - it's not an appropriate gift - I'm a pet fanatic but would hate to be gifted a pet.

Hrududu

woodchuck wrote: »

It's already too much imho, especially as you're going over the agreed limit. If anything you're risking making her feel bad when she doesn't have the same volume of presents for you!

This. This happened to me once and it made me feel awful. It sounds like a lovely idea that she'll be surprised with more than she expected. And she may love that. But there is a chance she'll feel bad that she didn't go overboard too

Permabear

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kirving

FitzShane wrote: »

She suggested a setting a limit, which is grand - only makes things fair. Obviously being the gentleman that I am, I was of courser going to go over this limit a bit. Just try and win over some nice points

A bit? If the limit is €100 for example, going above €120 or so runs the risk of embarrassing her, making her think you're trying to show off, or that you don't pay heed to agreements that you've made together. Your best best is to stick to the limit, but be as creative as you can be within it.

bertsmom

Op please don't give a living creature as a gift it honestly deserves a bit more thought and looking after than you are imagining. Lovely tho that you are trying to go the extra mile for a smile! Happy Christmas.

drunkmonkey

Tag Aquaracer keeping with the water theme, she'll love showing it off over xmas. You'll need to do a bit of haggling to get it in budget but it's possible.