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  • 12-12-2017 1:38pm
    #1
    shadow7ml
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16 ✭


    Thanks guys, you have made valid points, moving on in process :) Love and happiness to you all this christmas


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  • #2
    Aspadeaspade
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68 ✭✭Aspadeaspade


    OP you are way way to young for all this commitment/drama etc. You're at a time in your life where you're still learning about life, learning who you are and what you want. Few marriages or couples who get together at your age last a lifetime. You have so much time to enjoy your life before you consider settling down OP. You've been very patient with her, maybe it's time you took matters into your own hands and put an end to it and concentrate on yourself and your future OP. Chances are she'll come begging you for another chance when you end it, but it won't be because she wants to be with you, it'll be out of fear of the unknown and a bruised ego. It's time to move on OP. I was in a very long relationship when I was your age. When it ended I was devastated even though I was the one who ended it. It was the best thing I ever did. Good luck OP!


  • #3
    Estrellita
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 638 ✭✭✭Estrellita


    Sounds like your relationship has run its course. I don't profess to know much about the dating world, but know through others it can be hard going. I think she keeps coming back because you're the safe option.

    It's time that you suit yourself for once. I don't think you should let this pattern continue, you're the only one being hurt here. Time to free yourself up for the singles market yourself, in my opinion. She's using you until something better comes along.


  • #4
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    I think your relationship has run its course but your girlfriend is finding it hard to cut the cord. In a way I don't blame her. Most 21 year olds haven't got a serious 4 year relationship (including 3 living together) under their belt. She doesn't know anything else and is conflicted. She wants out but is scared of being single for the first time in her adult life.

    You're both at an age where you're changing a lot as people. You won't see this yourself because you're in the middle of it. I don't think it'd do either of you any harm to be single for a while because it's possible your relationship had been stifling the both of you as individuals.


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