Should I keep my foster...

Dawney

Hi all,

So I’m currently fostering the sweetest loveliest dog ever. He gets on well with my own dog, and has slotted in so easily into my routine. Ive fostered 7 dogs in the last year and have never felt this way about any of them.

What’s holding me back is.. I’m heading to my parent’s for Christmas, as well as the rest of my family, which will mean 10adults, 3kids, and 4 dogs as is it... adding another dog to to that isn’t ideal, especially as my parents dog is nervous aggressive with other dogs ....
Also, if I adopt this dog I’ll have to stop fostering .. at least for 6 months until new guy has settled...

So I guess I’m just looking for opinions... am I being silly thinking of adopting? I have been thinking about getting a second dog for the last year, so it’s not a spur of the moment thing, have just been waiting for ‘the one’ I guess!

Gloomtastic!

Go for it!

Dawney

I should add.. if I do decide to adopt.. 100% I couldn’t bring the new boy home at Christmas.. which would mean kenneling him alone for almost 3 weeks

He’d be able to come home in the future when things aren’t so hectic... but I’ll feel awful leaving him in kennels alone while my other dog is coming home it’s me.

Dawney

Dawney wrote: »

I should add.. if I do decide to adopt.. 100% I couldn’t bring the new boy home at Christmas.. which would mean kenneling him alone for almost 3 weeks

He’d be able to come home in the future when things aren’t so hectic... but I’ll feel awful leaving him in kennels alone while my other dog is coming home it’s me.

Can you discuss it with the rescue? Maybe they have another foster who could take him over the holidays for you? Sounds like you might really stuggle to give him up if he's clicked with you and your dog. If you've never felt this way with your other fosters then it sounds like he's something special.

muddypaws

What are the chances of him being rehomed before Christmas if you weren't keeping him? If you didn't adopt him yourself where would he go for Christmas?

dashoonage

Will you go way! should i keep my foster......you know he isn't going anywhere and just want us to tell you :P

jimf

go for it ye love each other some dogs do that to you

there will be too many ifs and buts later

Dawney

Thanks for the responses all

Deleted User wrote: »

Can you discuss it with the rescue? Maybe they have another foster who could take him over the holidays for you? Sounds like you might really stuggle to give him up if he's clicked with you and your dog. If you've never felt this way with your other fosters then it sounds like he's something special.

I’ve thought about doing this but don’t want to look cheeky ... like asking can they hold him for me til after Christmas.

What are the chances of him being rehomed before Christmas if you weren't keeping him? If you didn't adopt him yourself where would he go for Christmas?
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I don’t know.. he’s been with the rescue a while which is why they wanted him to go to foster.. to give him a better chance of being rehomed.. he’s a super dog and I’m sure once his details are updated to include what he’s like in a home ..he’ll be snapped up fast.

There’s a kennel space held for him by the rescue for the Christmas period should he still be with me (they know I can’t bring him home) so that’s where he’d go over the Christmas anyway...

I’ve decided to give it a couple of weeks, and if I still feel so strongly about him then, then he’s staying! Will work out Christmas somehow.

Dawney

dashoonage wrote: »

Will you go way! should i keep my foster......you know he isn't going anywhere and just want us to tell you :P

Haha.. maybe that’s it.. I just want someone to tell me to keep him!

aonb

KEEP HIM
KEEP HIM
KEEP HIM
KEEP HIM
KEEP HIM
KEEP HIM

How lucky are you to have found a dog that your own dog gets on with, but who you love enough to want to keep.
Talk to the rescue. If you have fostered from them before, they will surely take your dog for you over the Christmas period, so that you can adopt him. Our shelter regularly takes back adopted or fostered dogs when there is an issue like this. Its probably not ideal for your foster to go back to the shelter, but best that its that, rather than you not adopt!

and congratulations to being a FAILED FOSTERER - the very very best kind!

muddypaws

Dawney wrote: »

Thanks for the responses all

I don’t know.. he’s been with the rescue a while which is why they wanted him to go to foster.. to give him a better chance of being rehomed.. he’s a super dog and I’m sure once his details are updated to include what he’s like in a home ..he’ll be snapped up fast.

There’s a kennel space held for him by the rescue for the Christmas period should he still be with me (they know I can’t bring him home) so that’s where he’d go over the Christmas anyway...

I’ve decided to give it a couple of weeks, and if I still feel so strongly about him then, then he’s staying! Will work out Christmas somehow.

Maybe look into a kennel near to where you're going for Christmas, 3 weeks is a long time, even with family that you love, you could maybe take him out for walks a few times if the kennel was near where you are going to be?

Dawney

Thanks Aonb & Muddypaws,

Will speak to the rescue in the next week or so.. I like the idea of bringing him up close to home at least, will look into that!

Will let ye know what happens!

adelcrowsmel

Is there no one else you know - friends that could maybe take him over the xmas when you are away home in your parents?!

irishlady29

Sounds like you found a gem there. Be a shame to lose him because of Christmas.