Akward situation in pub -give me your opinion please.

irska1700

Hi people.

Im living in Ireland few years, Im not Irish, I speak english very good, Im kind polite, friendly..
Anyway, I went to pub with few people, mixed group, age 20-25.

I met one boy and I was "missing" for 1hour, because I was kissing with him, and people that was hanging with me,

they didnt see him and me, because we been on other side of pub (I was bit drunk and I couldnt leave him, he was soo cute).

Anyway, I said to him "goodbye" and come back to my group (my group didnt see him and dont know who is he).
They asked me where you been, I siad I met one boy and we been kissing, automatic reaction of this 2 irish students (girl and boy aged 20 years old) was that they come close to my face, and joking that I have something near my mouth, something white.
I looked like WTF ...
But I ignored and continue dancing.

When we left pub (after maybe 20minutes) , they been joking with me, O did you swallow or throw away when you suck, did you like suck his cock, you been missing to long, probably not only kissing.
The "best" part, girl she said "How much did you ask him(money)" , "How much you cost per hour" "Whats the price"
I said "there is no price, my value is not possible to compare by money, even Donald Trump could not afford me."
and I was laughting because I was drunk and I was shocked by stupid point of their view.
Then they change topic.
But it was soo akward.

And day later another girl said to me (not Irish) "ooo you like something white."

wtf.

Ok, I know that first what they can think was that I had sex with boy, or something like that, but joking that I suck his cock and joking how much did I cost, whats my price?
o.O

I wanna said, I was drunk, but I didnt look like whore, I had long dress (covered boobs) and light make up, also Im never trying to be attractive, I would say Im not that girl who will dance like slut, or even try look like, If you know what I mean.
When they said that, even it was late night I thought in my head: Omg, this is soo rude, how they speak to me, I couldnt imagine my kid one day as a student, that everyone think that joking on this way is ok.

Soo, is this "Normal" joke between Irish students, or they wanted to make me feel less valuable - did they said that to me because Im not Irish?
Do you understand me?
In my country I will NEVER make joke with close friend or non-close friend on THIS WAY, If my friend will kiss guy in pub, I will ask: OOO, how he looks like, nice, bla-bla.
But I will never make joke and said to her, you bitch how much did you cost per hour?

Im shocked still and thinking to said to them face to face that It was rude.
What should I do?
Thank you people.

Tenigate

Probably less to do with race, More to do with the silly friends you hang out with..
Sounds like they're immature, giddy about sex, probably a little jealous, drink too much, and make puerile jokes like something out of the inbetweeners. (But didn't you join in with all this stuff?)

And just an observation but your post is written in a very childish manner. So if you can get past the crude, personal comments, you're probably well-suited to your friends.

The comments seem to be more misogynist than racist. Still, yes it is typical of some crass people. But not everyone. Choose better friends.

server down

It’s irish slagging.

irska1700

Tenigate wrote: »

Probably less to do with race, More to do with the silly friends you hang out with..
Sounds like they're immature, giddy about sex, probably a little jealous, drink too much, and make puerile jokes like something out of the inbetweeners. (But didn't you join in with all this stuff?)

And just an observation but your post is written in a very childish manner. So if you can get past the crude, personal (non-racist) comments, you're probably well-suited to your friends.

If you want to be taken more seriously ditch those friends and act more grown-up.

Imagine that you are in Canada, hanging out in pub, and you are with some girl or boy, and when you come back, Canadians are joking that you suck his cock, and very LOUD on street joking how much you cost per hour?

You will not became offended ?

I just wanna hear peoples opinion.
Thank you.

leggo

I see what you mean about the race thing. There's definitely an element of it in Ireland: I wouldn't say we have a race problem as they do in the States, but there's also an underlying need in many to point out if someone is different.

Either way these comments are very offensive, not normal banter (unless, and I'm reaching here, the joke was because you never do this kind of stuff so they were sarcastically saying you were a 'slut' for kissing because it's so out of character) and you've every right to pull them up on it if they say it again or just not be friends with these people again.

Teyla Emmagan

server down wrote:

It’s irish slagging.

Only amongst pretty immature juveniles. None of that is funny, just the behaviour of idiots.

lifeandtimes

In all honesty it sounds like slagging.

My partner , me and my friends make countless jokes like that to each other,with and without drink and we are near our 30s. My mother would too at timr.

It's part of some Irish people to be crass with slagging and banter and to be honest it's a positive thing they feel comfortable enough to be like that with you and feel you can take the joke.

Not all people are like that mind you and if you don't like it then find new friends but if you can take it then sling it back their way OP, they will love it and it will cement your friendship with them further

lifeandtimes

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Only amongst pretty immature juveniles. None of that is funny, just the behaviour of idiots.

You can't speak for everyone there and it not just among juveniles. Maybe just not in your circle of friends.

Take the film anchorman. Will ferrall makes many comments about veronica being a whore and to go back to whore island and people find it hilarious

amtc

I don't find it funny but then again it's not my sense of humour. But I would pass it off as juvenile humour. However what do don't find acceptable that another girl said the same thing a day later. That means that the op was being talked about. Now that would bother me. Stupid drunken banter should stay where it belongs.

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It's just slagging I'd say. Not exactly top tier wit, but probably not meant to imply that they literally think you sucked some guy's dick at the pub.

Seeing as you're so very specific about what a non-slutty non-whore you are in how you present yourself (:/) then they might have just lost the run of themselves because it was out of character. I've seen it myself amongst my friends, if someone goes on about anything - that they're eating healthily, never going near a certain guy again, how they can eat spicier food than anyone else, anything at all, and then slips up, the slagging is merciless.

I can only go by what you've posted here and I appreciate there's a cultural and language barrier as well as it being over text, but I wouldn't be surprised if members of the group have picked up a judgemental vibe from you about dress and appearance, and casual sexual activity and might have been delighted to get the boot in.

It doesn't sound like funny, particularly nice slagging but I really doubt it's because you're not Irish.