I like wearing my gfs underwear

sexmag

Hi,

I have a problem that's not really much of a problem per se.

For as long as I can remember I did like to wear woman's underwear, it was something I did in my bedroom once in a while over the years.

I met my current girlfriend 4 years ago and we are happy and in a great relationship.

The other day I told her about a dream I had were I was wearing her underwear after she made me and it felt good, i jokingly said to her I'm going to test the theory and then that night after a couple of drinks and shower I put them on and showed her later. She laughed it off saying she couldn't believe it. I made a comment saying they felt ok but could be better and that id have to try another, the next day I did and I made another comment saying they felt better and I could get used to wearing her underwear and again she laughed it off.

Since then I've been wearing them for about 2 weeks and she knows and laughs it off saying she can't believe I'm wearing them etc and passes comments like hope your enjoying them and stuff.

My problem is not so much her but that im afraid people outside might know I'm wearing them when I go out. I guess I feel a sort or embarrassment if anyone else other than my gf knows and it make me paranoid and anxious when I'm outside which isn't good. I feel like people are watching me and they know

Has anyone any advice for me?

I know this is odd and I'm very greatful to have such an understanding gf but it's something that's bothering me

skallywag

At the risk of stating the obvious, since it freaks you out so much can you not just put this one into the 'the stuff I only do at home' box?

Big Bag of Chips

I don't know if your gf is "understanding". She seems to think it's a bit of a joke with you and not something that you actually like doing. I don't know if it makes a difference to you, but it might be worth having a proper discussion with her about it, without the laughing it off bit.

As far what others think/know.. how would they know. Do you have any idea what sort of underwear others are wearing? If you walk through town would you be able to pick out a fella wearing boxers, y-fronts or knickers for example.

What underwear we wear is our own business and not usually something that would be a topic of conversation with anyone else. So nobody else should know, or even be interested.

Wesser

Nobody will know. Unless you get knocked over by a bus.

I agree with everything big bag of chips said and just want to add..

With things like this, where we worry about what other people would think, a good question to ask yourself is; Is what I'm doing causing me or anyone else harm? If the answer is no then I say keep doing it if it makes you happy and feck what anyone else thinks!

B0jangles

I don't mean this in a snide way, but unless she's said she's fine with you wearing her stuff, you should probably start buying your own (or replacing her stuff with new ones when you take them) - she's probably not going to be happy if you wreck all her underwear!

Other than that, (and as long as you're both fine with it) it's hard to think of a more harmless quirk to have.

sexmag

Hi everyone thanks for your replies.

I should have clarified my gf is fine with it.

I said to her if she didn't like it i would stop and she said no she's fine with it, I also promised to replace any underwear and she said I didn't have too, well not yet anyway. But I'll think I'll surprise her with some just for being so underatanding.

I appreciate the advice about being out wearing them. Paranoia is awful but the suggestion of thinking if I can't see there's they can't see mine will work as long as I remember it.

Thanks again

Big Bag of Chips

sexmag wrote: »

But I'll think I'll surprise her with some just for being so underatanding.

We'll if you buy her some, make sure they're reserved just for her. It'd take the good out of buying her a gift if you wanted use of it too!

Tenigate

TTIUWP

dudara

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dudara

Tenigate

Sorry couldn't resist.
Op, if you enjoy it, what's the harm?
Definitely have a think about it. Analyse it a little. If your girlfriend is cool with it there's very little to worry about.
imo there's a certain immaturity in fetishes, including underwear. See if you can get to the bottom of it, but no need to be ashamed either way

lifeandtimes

Ops issues seems to be more about wearing them outside other than his partner.

It's great your partner is understanding

As regard your issue of wearing them outside it's all in your head in my opinion. People won't know unless you bend over in certain ways or tell them. Based on that just keep telling yourself how often do you see other people's underwear while out? Probably not very often so don't worry

WIZWEB

OP there's loads of heterosexual men sharing your hobby. It's harmless and perfectly healthy. I know someone with a fetish for wearing adult nappies and he doesn't care so why should you. Ultimately they are just items of clothing.

sashafierce

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Cupcake_Crisis

I honestly think you’ve built this up in your head to far more than it actually is. We all have our quirks or our kinks nd we go about our business with no one any the wiser.

I’ve often worn a partners tshirts or boxers as a matter of comfort or convenience, or just for fun and no one knows other than who I decide to tell.

Relax, it’s not a big deal. If you feel that unnerved by it keep it to when you’re at home.