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Birthday blues

  • 03-11-2017 12:38am
    #1
    sallyanne12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 259 ✭✭


    It's my birthday today well tomorrow but today cos it's after midnight now. Anyway my boyfriend who lives with me has forgotten. He recently lost his job so doesn't have much money and I do not expect anything from him. I absolutely did not want him to remember my birthday as I don't like a big fuss made about me and I just feel telling him is looking for attention and putting pressure on him to get me something or do something for me. I don't want to make it such a big deal by telling him it's my birthday. However, I told my mother not to make a big fuss of me and she said when my sisters all wish and sing happy birthday that he'll feel awful that he was the only one who didn't know.
    I know it's not a big issue but I don't want him feeling awful and now I'm wondering should I have told him. What do I do? Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Happy birthday.

    Just tell him it’s your birthday, but if you genuinely don’t want to make a fuss then tell him that too.

    You can even tell him without telling him, as such, if you don’t want to.

    “Well, now that I’m X do I look a year older than last time you saw me?” 😉


  • #3
    bee06
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,514 ✭✭✭bee06


    How do you know he's forgotten?


  • #4
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,431 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    Its only gone past 12


  • #5
    harry Bailey esq
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,814 ✭✭✭harry Bailey esq


    Never underestimate someone. Update us tomorrow and night.


  • #6
    MissMayo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 110 ✭✭MissMayo


    You could tell him subtly without it being the subject of the sentence.

    "My mother and sisters are calling in a few hours for my birthday, so I'm just going to give the sitting room a quick vacuuming."


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  • #7
    woodchuck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,411 ✭✭✭✭woodchuck


    Firstly, it's very early yet so you can't know that he has actually forgotten! But if you think he has forgotten, as suggested above, I think you need to mention in passing that it is your birthday. I get that you don't want to put pressure on him, but imagine how much worse he'd feel if he completely misses out on the occasional altogether. It costs nothing for him to wish you a happy birthday. And for very little money he could get you a card, cake and make you a nice dinner or something. I think it's forgivable that he'd forget given how much he has on his plate, but I'm sure he'd want the reminder!


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