grooms mother giving him away the norm?

flipflophead22

Ok another quick question, this question coming from the groom. Is it tradition or the norm that the grooms mum gives him away up the aisle before bride and father enter the room. Wedding will be in a hotel room so not sure how this works? On the phone to my mum the other night and she (oldschool) mentioned she will have to give me away as my dad has passed away a few years ago. Something like its an old tradition? Anyone heard of this? Had a look online and didnt see anything.Its not that i dont want to involve her but i do but at the time didnt know what was the done thing! Said it to the missus but she wasnt sure either. At the same time i dont want to say no and hurt her feelings as she seems to have it in her head.

Any advice?:)

Romantic Rose

Again, it's completely your own choice but I think that sounds like a lovely idea.

flipflophead22

Yes your right i also think its a lovely idea.:)

Dubl07

It's not a tradition that I've heard of. All the same, traditions all have to start somewhere.

If you're an only child your mum might feel worried about walking up the aisle alone. You could always walk her to her seat and make sure she's settled before standing beside your best man in time for the bride's entrance.

_Whimsical_

flipflophead22 wrote: »

Yes your right i also think its a lovely idea.:)

Well then don't let anyone else's ideas about it or whether it's tradition or not dictate what you'll do. These will be among your most precious memories. Do exactly what you know you'll be most happy looking back on when life is hard and you need to think of something that will make you smile. It is a lovely idea.

flipflophead22

yip your right which is why im going to do it:)

I will most likely walk with her to the top and escort her to her seat and then wait for bride and father. She will be chuffed And yes your right the memories will be priceless they will be photos forever of us two.

Sleeper12

I think your mum is confusing giving the bride away as it's not a tradition I ever heard of.

As said above I also think it's a lovely idea. For what it's worth, traditions did start out as traditions. It's your wedding don't be afraid to start your own tradition.

ShaShaBear

Definitely not a tradition I've heard of as it was always the bride "given away" to the groom.
However, it is a beautiful idea and sentiment because really, she's giving you away too, to your bride. And as you've said, it's an opportunity for some beautiful photos and itll make your mum happy!

John_Mc

In France it is a tradition. We got married last year in Bordeaux and I walked up the aisle with my mother. It was great and so happy I did it but it did mean meeting my bride outside the church. We didn't mind and actually thought it was nice to have a hug and quick chat before going in front of the guests.

GingerLily

John_Mc wrote: »

In France it is a tradition. We got married last year in Bordeaux and I walked up the aisle with my mother. It was great and so happy I did it but it did mean meeting my bride outside the church. We didn't mind and actually thought it was nice to have a hug and quick chat before going in front of the guests.

Where is your mother from OP?

It's not an Irish tradition - but people are following traditions less these days so don't worry about that - do what you want

splinter65

flipflophead22 wrote: »

Ok another quick question, this question coming from the groom. Is it tradition or the norm that the grooms mum gives him away up the aisle before bride and father enter the room. Wedding will be in a hotel room so not sure how this works? On the phone to my mum the other night and she (oldschool) mentioned she will have to give me away as my dad has passed away a few years ago. Something like its an old tradition? Anyone heard of this? Had a look online and didnt see anything.Its not that i dont want to involve her but i do but at the time didnt know what was the done thing! Said it to the missus but she wasnt sure either. At the same time i dont want to say no and hurt her feelings as she seems to have it in her head.

Any advice?:)

Bever heard of this before . Who would she be giving you too?

flipflophead22

Apologies should have phrased it better, so thats the thing i guess. She wont be giving me away its just me seeing her to her seat but a linked walk up aisle.

Meauldsegosha

I have seen it at a few weddings over the last couple of years where the groom has walked down the aisle with both his parents or has escorted his mother down the aisle if his father has passed away. If everyone is happy to participate there is no harm to it.

I also know another family where the grooms parents "didn't want all that fuss" so the groom has happy to stand at the top of the aisle with his groomsmen.

If everyone is happy to participate there is no harm to it and it will be a nice memory for you and your mam.

DaeryssaOne

We had a humanist ceremony this year and our celebrant asked us when we met her if we would like the groom to walk down the aisle with his mother first so it was more a case of both parents acknowledging their children joining in matrimony rather than just the father 'giving' his daughter to the groom. We thought it was a lovely idea and it worked because they walked down the aisle first and then I arrived with bridesmaids meaning we didn't see each other first either.

eviltwin

It's not traditional but so what, it's a lovely idea and its the personal touches like this that really make a wedding special.

Victor

flipflophead22 wrote: »

grooms mother giving him away the norm?

She's not giving him away, merely loaning him to the bride for a bit.

freshpopcorn

No idea to be honest I wouldn't consider it a tradition unless it was a family tradition.
It is something I have heard off and see and civil ceremonies.