Out here on my own

upordown

Hi hows it going. I created a second account for this as i couldnt figure out tbe anonymity feature.
Last spring i met a girl and we were together a while but i had to break it off due to me emigrating to give myself a better quality of life. We were a great match and dare i say it i think we were in love. She is still in college and i would never expect her to pack up and leave. She always assumed id only be here 6 months a year tops, but deep down i knew id be here on this side of the world for 5 years anyway before i returned home. We met up the night before i left by chance and said our goodbyes and how we noth still had feelings for each other but look theres nothing can be done. We still stayed in touch a bit through snapchat making sure each of us were going ok in our walks of life then 3 weeks ago i took a notion to ring her as we were both by chance free at the same time despite the different time zones. She was delighted i called and i delighted she answered we must have talked for an hour or so about everything and anything. We were talking a nice bit afterwards then it just stopped altogether of a sudden. Every since i rang her i havent felt great i just keep thinking how bad a boyfriend i was back then even though i tried my best i just kept putting work first but she stuck with me all the same. I hate that i carried on like that but at the time i didnt know whether i was coming or going due to the increased workload at that time of year. Ive heard shes moved on and im delighted for her and i hope she gets treated better than she did when she was with me i really do. But here i am now all on my own at the other end of the world not knowing what to do annoyed about how i carried on, despite the greater quality of life and larger network of friends i have here and the love of the place im in, i cant keep thinking why? Why am i at the other side of the world away from my old friends and my family and why im going to be here for a few more years. I love it here but im finding it hard to get over her. I know people say the best way to get over one is get your leg over another but its hard to do that where i am women are few and far between. I am constantly reminded of her everyday due to having mutual friends and social media the last 3 days have been tough as ive had time to think and my mind has just been thinking about her no matter how much i tell myself not too. I just want to know how to i get my head straight again everything was fine until that phone call a few weeks ago
Thanks
The man that doesnt know up from down

pilly

Just a tip, to make things easier for people to read stick a couple of paragraphs in.

I'm confused after reading it, you say you talked to her for ages and then you say you "heard" she moved on, why didn't she tell you when you were talking to her that she had someone else?

Really you have to make a decision here. Do you want to live where you are or do you want to move back? It's really that simple.

Once you've decided on one then you just have to forget about the other. There's no magic cure, you just have to keep telling yourself, it's gone, it's over, it's done, can't change it.

What you're doing now is wallowing. Sorry to be tough.

upordown

pilly wrote: »

Just a tip, to make things easier for people to read stick a couple of paragraphs in.

I'm confused after reading it, you say you talked to her for ages and then you say you "heard" she moved on, why didn't she tell you when you were talking to her that she had someone else?

Really you have to make a decision here. Do you want to live where you are or do you want to move back? It's really that simple.

Once you've decided on one then you just have to forget about the other. There's no magic cure, you just have to keep telling yourself, it's gone, it's over, it's done, can't change it.

What you're doing now is wallowing. Sorry to be tough.

Im here for the long run by the looks of it.
Your dead right all im doing is feeling sorry for myself i know damn well its over, and i keep telling myself that i just want to know how can i get my head straight again

pilly

upordown wrote:

Im here for the long run by the looks of it. Your dead right all im doing is feeling sorry for myself i know damn well its over, and i keep telling myself that i just want to know how can i get my head straight again

It's a tough one alright. Give up social media for a while maybe?

upordown

pilly wrote: »

It's a tough one alright. Give up social media for a while maybe?

That's a tough one its the only way to keep in contact out here

lazybones32

Remove her from your social media. Send her a short explanation and delete/block her. Or else try forget about her by constantly being reminded about her...

Go find one of these elusive women (or an attractive sheep, if you're in Aus)

Permabear

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