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Advice Needed

  • 01-11-2017 12:21am
    #1
    BelovedAunt
    Closed Accounts Posts: 803 ✭✭✭


    Lads, I've been engaged for five years with no end in sight. We decided to aim for a 2018 wedding in the past year but my fiancée hasn't done much planning since then and I wouldn't even know where to start! Any advice on how to just get cracking with it? I'm half tempted to get married in a registry office at this stage to just get it over with.


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  • #2
    lazygal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    What do you need to plan? Give three months notice to the state, book your wedding slot for the shortest time available and get married.
    Honestly, I wonder what has been going on outside wedding planning that you're engaged so long? Do you want one of the standard Irish weddings, ceremony, meal, band etc? Because we planned one of those within about a month once we picked a date and booked what we needed to.


  • #3
    Bacchus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,719 ✭✭✭Bacchus


    Well, knowing what you want would be a start. Do you want a traditional church, registry office or humanist ceremony? Do you want a hotel (big/small, country/city) reception, renovated barn, manor house, or a private meal with family and a few close friends? Decide those first, and people will be able to offer better advice that will help you get what you want.


  • #4
    witchgirl26
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,253 ✭✭✭witchgirl26


    OP have you considered that if you don't know where to start, maybe your finacee doesn't either & is floundering a bit too? Might be worth having a conversation about exactly what you both want, where and how big - get the basics set and then look at where you want to get married after that. Honestly though I don't believe it should be up to one person to plan it when it's both of you getting married.


  • #5
    Atomic Pineapple
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,272 ✭✭✭✭Atomic Pineapple


    Work out the budget you have for the wedding and then go and book it, once you've a budget and you are happy with it then it's just a matter of you yourself going and sorting it out.


  • #6
    PhoenixParker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,677 ✭✭✭PhoenixParker


    What's most important to ye? Church, venue, photographer, date? Pin down one thing and everything else will flow.

    Our process was something like. We wanted to get married quickly, hubby wanted summer, I wanted sisters to be done with exams. May onwards it was.

    Ceremony couldn't be religious which left secular or civil. Secular are difficult to get, especially at short notice so civil it was. Wanted a reception on a Saturday so decided family only ceremony had to be Friday. Call registry office to see what dates/times they had in May on Friday. Picked the best.

    Everything after that came down to availability.


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